So today we're going to talk about forgiveness after affairs.

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Hi George.

Hey Lori, how you doing up there pretty well you're well can't complain I'm in

Raleigh this is our first remote recording we'll see how it goes. All right.

So we want to talk about affairs and how people get over them, right?

How they forgive this.

I love what you did recently, you did that video on ambivalence and how people don't make decisions when they

have to about any relational difficulty but certainly this comes up a lot in

affairs where the Hurt Party kind of says,

I don't even know if I want to forgive or if I can forgive or should forgive.

And they kind of teeter on the fence and it's difficult to get to

healing until they kind of decide yeah I will forgive and that that's not a moment

right it's a process but exactly tell me a little bit more about how that

ambivalent point makes so much sense for people who are struggling you know how they don't go into

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