Hi everyone this is savvy psychologist I'm Dr Ellen Hendrickson and every week I'll help you

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So previously on the podcast, we've talked about how to deal with entitled

individuals more demanding than the Rock's workout schedule and so pushy you think the last

lifeboat was almost full. But given the national conversations sparked by the recent

Kavanaugh Supreme Court hearings, the subject of entitlement bears revisiting.

When Kavanaugh responded to questions about his drinking behavior with I got into Yale, many people raised objections, not only about using a prestigious education as a moral defense, but also at the attitude of entitlement is answer implied.

Now, not many of us will ever be in a position to vote yay or nay on a Supreme Court nominee, but we will likely encounter other forms of

smaller, everyday entitlement.

For example, a new hire may expect the choices shifts without having to work her way up.

A driver may decide to leapfrog a miles long traffic jam by squeezing by

squeezing by on the shoulder. A passenger on the subway may blast a boom box take up multiple seats and otherwise disregard the rules intended for everyone.

A customer might make multiple restaurant reservations to keep his options open and then no show all but one.

And almost everyone has experienced the house guest who just won't leave. At its very worst entitlement gets personal and hateful like online

in-cell hate groups that believe they are entitled to sex with women and have

even incited violence to express their resentment.

But whether it's an online hate group or just a school kid who expects his parent to hand deliver

his forgotten homework to his classroom, entitlement is a belief that we deserve special

treatment or privileges often at others expense.

In short, entitlement is a double standard of expecting to receive without earning or contributing.

Now, for entitled individuals themselves, this worldview is, of course, problematic.

It's a rigid mindset that leads to a cycle of unmet expectations, entitled explanations for

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