217: 3 Mistakes with Splitting Chores

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

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🗓️ 16 January 2024

⏱️ 56 minutes

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I found myself doing all the housework not long after we were married because I thought it would be nice for him and I wanted to be a nice wife, plus I wanted a clean house, homemade meals, and neatly folded laundry. And I wanted those things done the right way. It wasn’t long before I was overwhelmed, exhausted and mighty resentful! I was doing everything while he just skated along and watched TV, like I was the mom and he was a little boy. So I decided he HAD to help and told him that. But he didn’t help. Looking back I can see why. But I didn’t know I was making these outrageous mistakes that were preventing him from doing chores. And I’m not the only one! I hear from students that they were making the same mistakes until they learned what to do. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m revealing 3 mistakes with splitting chores and how to get more help with housework.

Plus, my guest Renee and her husband kept having big blow ups then cold wars then huge emotional hangovers over and over again. Renee took a long look at herself and saw some things she could improve. Today things are mostly peaceful, and he just wants to serve his wife and family. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

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0:00.0	today on the Empowered Wife podcast. This is not going to work for me. I'm absolutely miserable and I told him I'm so unhappy and and he looked at me and he said,
0:12.8	there's nothing I can do that will ever make you happy.
0:16.3	I've just finally realized I can't make you happy.
0:19.7	And you know, I agree with him.
0:22.8	I thought, hmm, you know, he can't make me happy.
0:26.3	And I was so miserable and he was so miserable
0:31.2	and I just thought if only he could improve I could be happy.
0:37.0	Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your marriage without
0:45.7	your man's conscious effort so that you feel desired, taken care of, and special, even if your relationship feels hopeless. I'm Lord Doyle. of and
0:55.0	today I'm more Doyle and today I'm revealing three mistakes with splitting the chores and how to get more help with housework
1:00.0	My guest Renee's marriage consisted of a cycle of big blow-ups, then
1:05.9	Cold Wars, then huge emotional hangovers, over and over again. Then Renee took a long look at herself, saw some things that she could improve.
1:16.5	Today her marriage is mostly peaceful and she's married to a great man who just wants to serve his wife and family.
1:24.0	She's going to tell us how she did it, so you can do it too.
1:27.0	But first, let's uncover the three mistakes of splitting chores
1:31.0	and how to get more help with housework.
1:33.7	I was terrible at this early on.
1:36.0	I found myself doing all the housework not long after we were married because I thought
1:40.7	it would be nice for him if I did that and I wanted to be a nice wife.
1:45.2	And I also wanted a clean house and homemade meals and neatly folded laundry.
1:51.0	And I wanted those things done the right way.
1:55.0	But it wasn't long before I was overwhelmed and exhausted and mighty resentful.
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