216. Secondary Losses

The Widowed Mom Podcast

Krista St-Germain

Mental Health, Grief, Deathofpartner, Education, Widowedmom, Deathofspouse, Widow, Lossoflovedone, Health & Fitness, Husbanddied, Self-improvement, Posttraumaticgrowth, Lifeafterloss, Overcominggrief

4.6 • 649 Ratings

🗓️ 17 July 2023

⏱️ 13 minutes

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Summary

It is 100% unequivocally devastating to lose a loved one. That’s your primary loss in grief. However, you might have also noticed knock-on effects of things you would not have otherwise lost in addition to your loved one. These are called secondary losses.

Join me this week to understand why we need to normalize secondary losses in grief and learn three things you can do to support yourself when you notice one emerging for you.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/216

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, episode 216, Secondary Losses.
0:10.4	Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, the only podcast that offers a proven process to help you work through your grief to grow, evolve, and create a future you can truly look forward
0:23.2	to. Here's your host, Master Certified Life Coach, Grief Expert, Widow, and Mom, Krista
0:30.5	St. Germain.
0:32.7	Hey there, welcome to another episode of the podcast. I've been meaning to do this one for a long time.
0:39.0	It's such an important topic and grief, and yet I keep kicking the can. So I'm glad we're
0:42.9	going to get to it today. This might not be a new term to you, secondary loss, but it's such an
0:49.2	important concept, which is why I want to spend some time going through it. So we're going to
0:53.3	talk about what secondary losses are, why they are so important,
0:58.6	and three things that you can do to support yourself when you notice a secondary loss.
1:04.6	So if you've never heard of the idea of a secondary loss, it's really simple.
1:13.6	The primary loss, the main loss,
1:19.1	was the loss of your person. All right, that makes sense. That's the primary loss. And that is, in and of itself, such a huge thing. And in addition to the primary loss, we experience what
1:26.8	are called secondary losses, which are all the other things, we experience what are called secondary losses,
1:28.4	which are all the other things, kind of the knock-on effects of the primary loss.
1:33.5	Things we wouldn't have lost but did because of the primary loss.
1:37.9	So this could be any number of things, but maybe it is the opportunity to watch your late spouse walk your daughter
1:49.7	down the aisle. Right? That's a secondary loss. Maybe it's money, it's income. Maybe it is
1:57.3	relationships. Maybe you had, you know, a lot of, I see this a lot in women who were military
2:04.0	families where their spouse was in the military and they had this huge connection to the military,
2:08.4	but then it's different after the spouse dies. And maybe it was a really important part of their
2:12.8	life, that military connection. Or sometimes it's, you know, somebody was a firefighter and they
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