You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey, everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we are talking about how to care less

about other people's opinions and

trust yourself more. So this is one that I know probably 90 plus percent of people who I

work with and teach have some version of this struggle, of being so overly invested in the

thoughts, opinions, beliefs, feedback of people around them, and often to the detriment of

our own internal sense of right and wrong or good and bad or what's best for us. And so we can

end up really outsourcing not only our decision making, but our own self-image and whether or not

we are doing okay, whether or not we're a good person,

whether or not we're acceptable. We let other people be the arbiter of that. And naturally,

that takes us further and further away from having a healthy relationship with ourselves,

because oftentimes we neglect that in favour of being whoever we think we need to be in order to secure the approval of others.

And while that makes a lot of sense, as we'll talk about today from a few different angles,

I think that it can really cost us a lot.

And so I want to talk about that.

And I want to talk about how you can maybe shift away from being so externally oriented

and find ways to connect with your own sense of who you are and what's right for you

so that you've got more of a sturdy base within yourself

and you're not so subject to being thrown off centre by whatever else is going on out there.

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