210 SelfWork: When How and Why You Should Leave Therapy.. Or Not
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 25 December 2020
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
Today's SelfWork, sponsored by BetterHelp, focuses on why, how and why you might choose to end therapy, or more concisely, to leave a particular therapist. We'll cover some "good" reasons to leave, reasons that either have to do with the success you've experienced or reaching your goals, as well as the ones that have to do with disappointment with or even misbehavior or unethical behavior by the therapist themselves. But we'll also focus on the reasons why you might justify leaving, when in actuality, it may not be in your best interest to do so. I’m a huge believer in the power of good therapy. But it’s not always good. And we need to address how you know when it’s time to leave – or not.
The listener email is once again quite different. I’ll read from a letter I received from a man who’s serving time in prison, He reached out in a very special way – and I thought you’d like to hear.
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Good article in Psych Central about reason to leave or not leave therapy
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello and welcome to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical psychologist out of Fayetteville, Arkansas. |
| 0:36.0 | And it began self-work four years ago, a little more than four years ago, because I wanted |
| 0:41.2 | to extend the walls of my practice to those of you who |
| 0:44.6 | might already be interested in psychological and emotional issues, maybe even in therapy |
| 0:49.4 | and just want to learn more from those of you who've been diagnosed with depression or anxiety |
| 0:55.1 | or you're having relationship issues and you need information. |
| 0:59.6 | Or to a third group of course to those of you who would say I'll never |
| 1:03.2 | darken the door of a therapist and yet you're just curious enough to listen in to |
| 1:08.5 | something like self-work. I don't know about you but my eyes immediately filled with tears this week when I watched the first delivery trucks pulling away from the Michigan Distribution Center here in the U.S. loaded with vaccines. |
| 1:22.0 | We are lucky in the U.S US to be able to access it and I sincerely hope |
| 1:25.8 | that the vaccine can and will be shared throughout the world. We all need to be kind |
| 1:30.7 | to one another as there are signs that 2021 may not be quite as harsh and |
| 1:35.7 | unforgiving a year. |
| 1:37.4 | We can all have hope. |
| 1:39.6 | I realize that this week's offering is coming on Christmas day, a very special day for people |
| 1:44.6 | of the Christian faith. Hanukkah is also being celebrated this month as this Kwanza |
| 1:49.1 | Boxing Day. The month of December also holds significant spiritual days for |
| 1:53.4 | Buddhists and Muslims and I'm sure there are others I'm not aware of. |
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