209 SelfWork: 3 Questions To Ask Before You Trust Your Gut
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 18 December 2020
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
I'd planned to do this episode of SelfWork on developing trust in others. But as I researched the question, I realized that first, you have to make sure you can trust your own decision-making. And your gut. I found the work of Nobel Prize winner Daniel Kahneman (who made the most sense to me) on how you can determine if you can trust your gut or not. There are three questions that need a "yes" answer before you can jump into believing that intuition of yours - and today, on this episode sponsored by BetterHelp, we'll find out what those three questions are. And I offer a five-step process to work your way through those three questions, as well as adding a few ideas of my own.
The listener wrote in for this week described a very painful relationship with his therapist, that had led him to feel even more shame for a porn addiction. Luckily, he was able to recognize what was going on and he left that therapist. I decided I couldn't address such a huge topic - how to handle conflict or disappointment with a therapist - with only an email answer. So I'm going to address this very important issue in Episode 210 of SelfWork.
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Daniel Kahneman's book on Audible Thinking Fast and Slow
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello and welcome or welcome back to self-work to actually this two hundred ninth episode |
| 0:35.4 | of self-work which is hard to believe. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a |
| 0:40.4 | clinical psychologist out of Fable Arkansas and I began self-work more than four years ago to try to address |
| 0:47.0 | some of the issues that still seem confusing to people about therapy. |
| 0:52.0 | I wanted to reach those of you who might already be. seem confusing to people about therapy. |
| 0:52.8 | I wanted to reach those of you who might already be in therapy and be very comfortable |
| 0:56.9 | with psychological and emotional issues. |
| 0:59.2 | To those of you who might have just been diagnosed with depression or anxiety or some other kind of |
| 1:04.4 | mental illness or you're having a relationship problem that seems daunting. |
| 1:08.9 | But also to those of you who might say I'd never darkened the door of a therapist but you're |
| 1:15.9 | just curious enough to listen in to someone like me. So welcome to all of you and |
| 1:21.6 | some of you who recently told me once again, you know, there's a fourth group, those of us who can't afford therapy and really need podcasts like this. |
| 1:31.0 | So I really am glad all of you are here. |
| 1:34.0 | Trust is something that may initially seem like it's given or perhaps more honestly, it's earned by others. |
| 1:41.0 | But as I looked up learning to trust I found article after article |
| 1:45.2 | with some great tips on learning how to trust someone else and I'll have one of the |
| 1:49.4 | ones I found that I really like in the show notes today by Andrea Bonoir a professor at |
| 1:55.4 | Georgetown who includes things on her list such as learning to be vulnerable but |
| 1:59.6 | doing it gradually making sure you feel, and having the expectation that people will |
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