21: How To Stop Playing The "Waiting Game"
Love Life with Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
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🗓️ 3 May 2020
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
Your phone buzzes. It’s a text from him ;)
You can feel your stomach flip over with excitement. Every message he sends is like sweet honey for your brain. “Damn”, you think, “I’m an addict.”
And then you fire a cute message back. And you wait...and wait… “Why isn’t he replying?” you want to scream to your friend on the couch next to you.
But she’s too busy with her phone to notice.
You try to shift focus, but you obsessively check for a text every 30 seconds.
Sound familiar?
We’ve all had this agony of “anxious waiting” with someone we like. It’s distracting, it’s unattractive, and it drains you of your peace of mind every minute you sit in limbo. If you’re sick of waiting for his text and want to finally take back your power, listen to this...
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome back to the Love Life podcast with me, your host Stephen Hussie. |
| 0:29.9 | And today I want to talk about a feeling that is all too common and dangerous in dating, |
| 0:37.8 | particularly for those of you who perhaps in lockdown right now you're doing a lot of |
| 0:42.2 | swiping on dating apps, maybe you've had a couple of promising conversations or is one |
| 0:47.7 | person you're kind of interested in and excited about. And what can happen if we're not |
| 0:53.7 | careful? Maybe we get a little excited, a little butterflies in our stomach about someone |
| 0:59.5 | and we text them and we get text back and it's exciting every time their text comes in, |
| 1:05.2 | it's like a little hit of dopamine and then one time the text takes a little longer to get back |
| 1:11.5 | from them. And we think okay, but I get the nice little hit of dopamine again when they text back. |
| 1:18.1 | Then the next one takes even longer and maybe even the whole evening goes by and they don't text |
| 1:24.9 | and we go to bed a little anxious and suddenly before we know it we're in that situation |
| 1:32.1 | of anxious waiting where even if it's someone we didn't know a couple of weeks ago, |
| 1:38.4 | suddenly our self-esteem feels completely invested in this scenario of acceptance or rejection |
| 1:44.3 | and we're waiting for that back and we think well what can I do in the meantime? Is there something |
| 1:50.0 | else I can say? Is there something I'm saying wrong that means they're not texting me back in time? |
| 1:54.6 | Or what is it? And you know suddenly you've lost control. You've lost emotional control. Your |
| 2:01.9 | happiness seems dependent on this person and it's a very anxiety inducing place to be. So if you've |
| 2:09.3 | been in this scenario before, I want you to listen very carefully to what Matt says in this clip. |
| 2:15.6 | Check it out. You are waiting for a text message or for someone to call you back |
| 2:23.6 | or someone to ask you on a date again or to express that they still love you, that they're thinking |
| 2:30.1 | of you. But right now your phone is blank. There is no message. There is no phone call. There is no |
| 2:39.0 | person giving you that validation that you're looking for. And the result is that you are |
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