#207: The Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Stop Giving a Shit w/ Kara Loewentheil, J.D.

Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women

Mary Jelkovsky

Body-image, Education, Relationships, Self Compassion, Society & Culture, Self Love For Women, Self Love, Self-improvement, Advice For Women, Women's Health, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Love Yourself, Self Worth, Self-love, Body Image

4.9 • 745 Ratings

🗓️ 23 May 2024

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

Women are put into all sorts of boxes i.e. sexist roles and expectations on who we “should” be. Life coach Kara Loewentheil is back to talk some sense into us and teach us how to break these internalized thought patterns. You will learn... - what “thought work” is and how it can help your mindset - how to break out of the “virgin/whore” + “maiden/mother/crone” paradigms - why “positive thinking” usually doesn’t work long-term (and what helps instead) - how our sexist socializations project onto the women around us Toward the end, Kara coaches Mary on some of the conflicting thoughts she’s having about her career. Remember: the only way to stop caring about what other people think about you is to start caring more about what YOU think about you. Kara Loewentheil, J.D. is a Master Certified Life Coach, founder of [The School of New Feminist Thought](https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/), and host of the internationally top-ranked podcast [UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unf-ck-your-brain/id1229434818) (50 million downloads and counting!). Her first book, [*Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out*](https://www.takebackyourbrainbook.com/) (Penguin Life May 2024) has been called a “galvanizing debut” by Publisher’s Weekly, chosen as a “must-read” by the Next Big Ideas Book Club for May 2024, and praised by NYT-bestselling authors including Mel Robbins, Elise Loehnen, Dr. Marisa Franco, and Tori Dunlap. A graduate of Yale College and Harvard Law School, Kara did what every Ivy League lawyer should do: Quit a prestigious academic career to become a life coach! Eight years after she stepped down as director of a think tank at Columbia Law School, she has created a multiple-7-figure business, taught millions of women how to identify the ways that sexist socialization impacts their brains, and helped women all over the world rewire their thought patterns to liberate themselves from the inside out. Follow Kara on Instagram: [@karaloewentheil](https://www.instagram.com/karaloewentheil) Get Kara’s book, *Take Back Your Brain* here: https://amzn.to/3Wo3W1g And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @karaloewentheil Mentioned in this episode… Ep. 36: Feminism, Body-Image, and Unfcking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mi1O4iimYDJ2oT6PlY0nG?si=6a093c1379304c30

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0:00.0	Welcome to Mary's Cup of Tea, the Self-Love Podcast for Women.
0:06.6	I'm your host, Mary Jolkowski, an author, speaker, and all-around self-love advocate.
0:12.6	And this is the podcast that will inspire you to love yourself.
0:18.4	Hello, self-lover.
0:19.9	Before we dive into today's podcast episode, I want to make sure you know about my two books on self-love.
0:25.7	If you're struggling with body image or self-acceptance, then I highly recommend you check out my first book, The Gift of Self-Love.
0:32.8	It's a comprehensive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to love who you are.
0:39.3	Thousands of people have this book and the five-star reviews are so amazing. They give me so much
0:44.5	life, so I hope that this is something that can help you too. You can get it wherever books are
0:49.0	sold by searching for the gift of self-love or go to my website, maryscup of tea.com slash book.
0:56.1	After releasing the gift of self-love and reading all your positive feedback,
0:59.8	I realized that we really needed something to keep us going every single day.
1:03.7	So not a deep-dive workbook, but maybe like a micro dose of self-love in your daily life,
1:09.8	which is why I wrote 100 days of self-love.
1:12.7	It's a guided journal with, you guessed it, 100 prompts that cover so many areas of life,
1:18.0	including body, identity, purpose, emotions, mindset, relationships, and more.
1:24.0	So you can really think of it as a metaphorical multivitamin, something to keep you going,
1:28.8	or as I like to say, growing on your self-love journey. You can get this journal wherever books are
1:33.6	sold as well by searching for 100 days of self-love or go to mary's cup of tea.com slash journal.
1:39.4	It's my mission to share all the self-love tea with you, so I hope that both my books and this podcast
1:44.7	can do just that.
1:51.8	Women are put into all sorts of boxes, and by boxes, I mean sexist roles and expectations
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