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The Sabrina Zohar Show

204: Stop Trying to Be Picked. Start Picking Yourself. (Live Coaching)

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Sabrina Zohar

Relationships, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.95.5K Ratings

🗓️ 15 May 2026

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

In the first ever live coaching session of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina sits down with brand ambassador and content creator Judit Moreno for an unfiltered conversation about anxious attachment, the father wound, and why so many of us keep dating emotionally unavailable men. They unpack how childhood shapes adult relationship patterns, what love bombing does to your nervous system, and why self-abandonment can feel like home when chaos was your blueprint for love. If you have ever wondered why you keep attracting the same partner in different bodies, spiraled in anxious attachment dating cycles, or felt like you are "too much" in relationships, this episode is for you. Sabrina walks Judit through real-time inner child work, reparenting, and the powerful mindset shift from wanting to be picked to actually choosing yourself. A must listen for anyone working on attachment theory, healing childhood trauma, and breaking toxic dating patterns for good. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠ If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠ Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠  Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video. Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠  Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠  Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠ Please support our sponsors! Go to Quince.com/SABRINA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Machine Washable Rugs, Made Better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at tumbleliving.com/SABRINA #Tumble #ad ============================= Chapters: 00:00 First Live Coaching Session 05:15 Anxious Attachment & Father Wound 10:36 When Anxiety Takes Over Your Body 14:47 Be Picked vs. Picking Yourself 19:30 Toxic Love, Gaslighting & Cheating 24:38 Normalizing Chaos in Childhood 29:39 Why Chaos Feels Like Love 35:27 Who Are You Without Struggle? 41:08 Loving the Parts You Hate 46:13 Shame, Guilt & Reparenting Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

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0:51.5

Why doesn't this person want to be with me? What is wrong with me? Why am I like this? Am I just doomed to fucking repeat the same issues over and over and over again and never actually get through it? A question I think a lot of us ask and something that I think most of us get stuck on is, where did I learn this from? How old do I feel? And man, will I ever be able to break this? And today, we're going to do just that.

1:11.5

Hello, hello, hello!

2:01.3

And welcome to another episode of the Super Nizohar Show. My name is Super Nizohar, and I am your host. Hello, friends. Welcome back to a very, very special episode. This is our first live coaching episode. I'm so excited. I have a really good friend of mine. Judith is here. and we are going to have a really, really beautiful conversation where we get into the nits and crannies and really start to understand it's not just one parent, but maybe it's a whole slew of an army as a kid that taught us all of these things that we just, frankly speaking, want to fucking let go of. And I'm so excited. Guys, thank you, as always, for being here. Please don't forget to rate and review the show. If you need anything, you can work one on one, ask a question, join one of the courses that we have, the Art of Going Slow or the Healthy Dating Foundation course. Everything is going to be at the link in show notes or Sabrinazohar.com. Don't forget to follow along on the socials at the Sabrina Zohar show on Instagram, Sabrina underscore Zohar on TikTok.

2:18.4

And guys, thank you for being here. I know that, you know, if you're new, I curse a lot. I speak really fast. I'm really sharp. You could slow the speed down. You could do ad free. You can choose your own adventure. Or you could just be here. And I'm so grateful for that. And if it doesn't work for you, that's okay. If this is your last show, don't worry about it.

2:37.2

But we are building a really strong community of feeling safe and feeling supported in the space that we're in. So I just ask for the same kindness that we give back. And please don't forget to show love, share it with a friend. And thank you for being here. Thank you so much for building the community with me. So without further ado, babes, let's get right the fuck on into it, shall we? Hi, Judith.

3:26.6

Hi, love. I'm so excited. I'm nervous. I'm scared. I'm all the things. But I am so excited and stoked to have you. Welcome to the Sabrina Zoharsha. Thank you so much. It's my pleasure to be here. I have followed you for so long. and the fact that I'm here, I'm like, I know. Well, when we became friends and then we were like, wait, because like the number one thing we've been requested is please do a live coaching session. And I know that's wild because I'm so used to being private with that. And so we're opening it up today for my friends. And today, you guys are going to get the meat and potatoes. And so I have my iPad. I take notes when I do sessions. So if you guys just see me jotting down things, don't be surprised. But Ms. Judon, before we get started, could you maybe just share a little bit about who you are, what you do, just so that the audience can feel a little bit more welcomed with you. Sure. So I'm from Barcelona, Spain. Barcelona?

3:27.6

Barcelona.

3:28.6

My name is Jitha Moreno, and I am a brand ambassador and content creator.

3:33.8

Basically, everything that I do is based in fitness and wellness.

3:39.4

So yeah, I've been in the U.S. now for 10 years.

3:42.6

I moved here when I was 23, and I'm turning 34 in November.

3:47.5

So it's been a ride, girl.

3:49.8

What have you seen as the biggest difference between Barcelona and the States specifically?

3:55.6

And especially in dating, I'm curious.

3:57.4

Oh, a loaded dating. I'm curious. Oh, loaded question.

3:59.9

I think Spanish culture in general tends to be a little more warm.

4:05.7

We are more welcoming, in a sense.

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