20-Week Challenges, Who Am I Online? & Dating Dilemmas

Seeing Other People

Ilana Dunn

Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Social Sciences, Science

4.5 • 608 Ratings

🗓️ 12 January 2026

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Jake and I talk through our 20-week challenges, from ambitious reading goals to posting trial reels and what consistency actually looks like in real life. I open up about my ongoing social media identity questions, the pressure to “pick a lane.” Plus, we answer listener questions, including mixed signals after a first date, getting ghosted, deciding if you’re ready for a dog while single, and navigating a potential relationship with someone mid-career pivot.

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0:00.0	It's funny, you always use the pillow behind you.
0:02.8	I need it.
0:03.3	I need to be propped forward. And I feel like the pillow makes me slouch, and I'm better off just positioning myself at the back of this chair. It's too far away from me. You're sitting with your legs crossed. I can't do that. That's true. I usually do. How is PT? It was good. Yeah. I don't know. It was more of like a first session today where
0:24.1	she just like checked out what I can do with it and whatnot. So yeah, nothing major. I can't even
0:31.2	believe it was like 40 minutes long. I also like rushed over there almost walked into our old
0:36.3	apartment and I was like, this is not where I'm going.
0:38.5	Well, it was always embarrassing when I would get there five minutes late, and they're like, you live upstairs.
0:43.1	All right, Berkeley, this isn't going to work.
0:44.5	Hold on.
0:46.2	Okay, we're good.
0:47.2	I traded Berkeley's carrot toy for his bone, which is kind of like the opposite of us trading out our actual Reese's for yogurt with PB2 and some chocolate on top. Yeah, it was better the first time, I think. I know. We'll still make them. We'll still make them. Peanut butter is fine. You can use real peanut butter. I know, I know. Anyways, guys, welcome back to co-host for life. I'm Alana. I'm Jake. And I feel a lot better today than I did on Sunday when we last recorded. Yeah, and it hasn't been that long. It's only Wednesday. We're recording a little bit early. I started feeling sick on Friday night. Saturday I was down, bad, out for the count. Sunday was tough. Monday was tough. Tuesday was tough. Today is the first
1:30.4	day where I feel a little better. 20, 26. At least I'm consistent. We could start off. We
1:38.0	start a calendar marking off how many days of the year you're sick. That's something we honestly
1:42.1	should do. Just for research. It would be too depressing. I can't
1:45.2	look at that. No, but I mean, it is interesting to think about, like, I still can't stop thinking
1:49.6	about the fact that I didn't get sick at all during marathon training except for literally
1:52.7	week one. Yeah, I don't know what it is. I think having the goal and getting up and going at it
1:59.5	every day helped you.
2:01.8	I agree.
2:08.4	However, there were no days where I felt sick to the point where I couldn't do it.
2:09.6	Like the last five days.
2:10.1	I get it.
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