Hey guys, how's it going?

This is Vakel with the Teen Life Coach podcast.

Everyone has moments of struggling with feeling worthless.

Like they don't have value.

I think that's where a lot of times anxiety can stem from is we have this need to prove

our worth.

That if we just did everything perfectly that then we would have value and obviously that

that belief creates perfectionism and then we're always worrying about how to do things perfectly

and do them right when the thing is we're going to make mistakes right we're going to mess up and so we're always trying to prove our worth you know it a lot of times is by external things like we're trying to prove our worth by you know having lots of friends or getting good grades or doing well in

sports or having a boy like you. A big one for me has been getting compliments. Like I could be having a

hard day.

And then, you know, if someone said, oh, wow, you look really cute today,

then I would feel so much better about myself.

I would feel like I had a worth because I got a compliment.

And so I would spend like so much time in the morning getting ready and picking out cute

clothes because I wanted compliments that would make me feel worthwhile.

But then I would have days right where I spent all this time getting ready

and no one would compliment me. And then it would be like, oh, well, where is my compliment?

Where is my, like, I want to feel good about myself and I need those compliments. So maybe I shouldn't be wearing this outfit that I thought was really cute.

Or I should do my makeup or hair different.

And maybe I should get a haircut.

Like, why didn't I get any compliments?

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