2 Ways to Prevent a Simple Conversation From Turning into a Conflict (that take 5 seconds to do): Episode 207

EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman

Education, Society & Culture, Relationships, Self-improvement

5.0 • 589 Ratings

🗓️ 4 January 2022

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here. So you're having a seemingly simple conversation with your partner or a perfectly normal day, and then BAM things escalate into an unexpected conflict. It's frustrating when that happens!

Many times that happens because of the way one of you initiates the conversation, and then the way the other person listens. So today's episode gives you 2 simple ways (that literally take you 5 seconds) to prevent these simple conversations from becoming an unnecessary conflict.

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship
0:05.4	advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay in the same team
0:10.8	no matter the challenge that you face. I'm one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman. And I'm Jocelyn Freeman,
0:15.0	but you all just know us as the Freeman's. And this episode is about two ways to prevent a simple
0:19.9	conversation from turning into a conflict. And this can is about two ways to prevent a simple conversation from turning into a conflict.
0:23.9	And this can literally take five seconds.
0:25.7	So there you are having a perfectly good day.
0:29.0	Maybe it just started.
0:30.5	Maybe it's the end of the day.
0:31.7	And then bam, a simple conversation with your partner turns into something bigger.
0:37.2	And you're like,
0:37.8	what the heck? Like we were just having this conversation over dinner or breakfast or here
0:42.9	I am just getting ready for my day. This could have been simple. Now we're frustrated with
0:48.1	each other. Not even just simple. It was simple. Maybe you were just trying to share something
0:53.3	about your day. Maybe you're just sharing
0:55.7	something about, I don't know, a little tweak in your communication or something that you saw.
1:00.5	Honestly, I have this experience where I'm just kind of communicating very common, very,
1:06.8	certainly no malintent, right? I'm just kind of living here. And then all of a sudden,
1:11.6	like you said, out of nowhere, it's like, wait, how the heck are you defensive now?
1:16.5	Wait, how the heck, this is even meant to be this? Where are we going with this?
1:20.1	And this is something we've been hearing a lot on our sessions with couples is this pattern.
1:25.2	You know, a couple saying literally I was just waking up, relaxing in the
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