1KHO 651: Pushing Isn't Always the Answer | Aundi Kolber, Try Softer

The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast

Ginny Yurich

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.9 • 1.8K Ratings

🗓️ 16 December 2025

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

Trauma therapist and bestselling author Aundi Kolber join us to name the pattern so many of us live in: trying harder when our nervous system is begging for gentleness. Aundi shares the moment a mentor asked her a question that changed everything—Have you ever tried softer?—and why real healing is “thousands of tiny decisions” that slowly move us toward safety, connection, and joy. This conversation is full of hope you can actually use: cues of safety, the power of repair (for us and our kids), and a beautiful practice Aundi calls beauty hunting—learning to notice what restores you, especially outdoors. You’ll hear why play matters, how our early stories shape attachment and even our view of God, and why compassion is not weakness. Explore Aundi’s work at her site aundikolber.com and find her writing on Substack ⁠aundikolber.substack.com⁠. Get your copy of Try Softer here Get your copy of Strong Like Water here Get your copy of Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to the 1000 Hours Outside podcast.
0:02.4	My name is Ginny Eurich.
0:03.3	I'm the founder of 1000 Hours Outside. And I'm very honored that Andy Colbert said yes to be here this morning. Thanks for being here. Absolutely. Really good to be with you. So I have to tell you how we got connected on my side. I mean, you know how we got connected. I sent you a message. But I have a dear friend and a newer friend,
0:23.2	a dear friend
0:22.1	and a newer friend, a dear friend who is a reader, which is so wonderful to have friends that are readers. And, you know, she's passing along like, I read this, have you read it? And she told me about your book. And she told me about your book, TriSofter. Now, you know, you have several books. They're strong like water, there's take what you need.
0:38.6	And I was just so drawn to it, Andi.
0:40.4	Try soft, a fresh approach to move us out of anxiety, stress, and survival mode and into a life of connection and joy. And so this friend who told me about it, she has listened to it on audiobook five times.
0:53.1	That's beautiful. Okay, sorry, I just have to interrupt you briefly.
0:56.2	That just always moves me when I hear that.
0:58.8	That's really cool.
1:00.0	Do you know someone, I was reading somewhere once where someone was saying, you know,
1:04.3	like everything is so numerically based, like how many books did you sell and how many
1:08.4	audiobooks did you sell and all these things?
1:10.6	And they said it doesn't capture the person who listens to it more than once.
1:16.5	Yeah. Or five times, you know? Yeah. That is such, well, to your friend, what a privilege.
1:23.6	Like as I am a deep feeler and that just even makes me a little bit emotional to hear that.
1:29.7	And I have just been, it has been such a privilege to steward this work.
1:34.9	And sometimes, you know, when I do events or things like that, I'll have people come up and they'll show me their books sometimes.
1:41.4	And the number of times where people come up and their books, and this is an honor to me,
1:46.8	these books are just like dog-eared, they have so many notes. I mean, they have been through it.
1:53.1	They got coffee stains. They've got, you know, post-it notes. And they will say, this book has just
2:00.4	been such a companion to me you know like
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