1KHO 583: When Your Best Isn't Enough to Prevent Pain | Tony Miltenburger, Wisdom in the Wound

The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast

Ginny Yurich

Parenting, Kids & Family

4.9 • 1.8K Ratings

🗓️ 26 September 2025

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

What if the very wounds you never meant to cause are also the trailheads to your child’s greatest gifts and your own? In this deeply honest conversation, Army veteran, pastor, coach, and author Tony Miltenberger sits down with Ginny to unpack the hard paradox parents live every day: intentions don’t always protect against impact. Tony names the “little-t trauma” most of us absorb between ages four and twelve, explains why our kids are “most definitely wounded” even in loving homes, and shows how to spot it (like when emotions spike past a six and we’re tempted to react instead of respond.) From “amnesty dinners” that invite truth without punishment to the surprising way a child’s wound can become their strength, this episode offers relief without shirking responsibility, and practical rhythm without shame. Explore Tony’s new book, Wisdom in the Wound: How God Uses Your Past to Shape Who You’re Becoming, for a deeper dive into redeeming the pain we never intended to cause. Tony also shares how his own story—military service, ministry, and fatherhood—shaped a simple definition of grace: empathy plus curiosity. If you’ve felt the ache of doing your best and still seeing fallout, this conversation will help you trade self-judgment for steadiness and turn rupture into repair. Connect with more of Tony’s work here: Follow 2 Lead podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:23.6	HelloVet.
0:26.2	Welcome to the 1000 Hours Outside podcast.
0:28.4	My name is Ginny Earth.
0:29.2	I'm the founder of 1,000 hours outside.
0:31.2	And I have a new friend, an author, a leader in the army, and a podcaster for five years.
0:37.2	Podcasts called Follow to Lead, a Christian Leaders podcast.
0:39.9	And I got sent this wonderful book in the mail that's the legit manuscript.
0:45.9	Tony Miltonberger, welcome.
0:47.7	Jenny, it's such an honor to be here.
0:49.9	I'm such a big fan of your work.
0:51.5	And we're on the podcast network together.
0:53.8	That Sounds Fun Network together. So it's great to connect with one of my podcast network family members. I know. It's really fun. I think there's a whole lot of shows, something like 50 shows on the network. So many shows. Oh, it's so great. Yeah. And they keep adding new people. So it's wonderful. Actually, I just saw Annie the other day. So that was really cool. So you have a new book coming out called Wisdom in the Wound, and it will be out by the time this podcast goes live, how God uses your past to shape who you're becoming. And there are some really interesting topics in this book that I think are so pertinent. Because as parents, we are trying so hard to do the best
1:30.2	we can for our kids. And you cover this topic that I actually think probably would allow a parent
1:36.7	in some ways to breathe a little bit easier. You say this. Your kids are most definitely wounded.
1:45.9	I just have never found it not to be true.
1:48.4	Yeah.
1:48.9	Right?
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