Hey there, thanks so much for joining me on this edition of the Shalene Show. This is a really special edition.

It's something I've never shared with you before. A story I've never shared with you before and a technique I've never shared before on one of my podcast.

It's something that we teach live at the Smart Success live event that we have each year and so many people were talking about it in like social media, which I really appreciate on live streaming that I thought, okay, I should probably share this technique.

And I know this is going to help you in more than just your romantic or very personal relationships. This tool can help you just about in any situation where you want to pinch someone's head off.

So here goes off to the show.

Welcome to the Shalene Show. Shalene is a New York Times bestselling author, celebrity fitness trainer and obsessed with helping you live your dream life.

Today, I'm going to share with you a technique that is incredibly useful to this is the trippiest thing ever you guys. It immediately diffuses anger. It's crazy how awesome this works.

And I want you to try it and we're going to do it together. And so the first thing I want you to do is to think about somebody who you'd like to pinch their head off. There's just no other way to put it.

Really, that's the nice way to put it is you would like to pinch their head off. Can you conjure up somebody? Okay, so I'm going to ask you to come up with two different people.

I need you to pull up somebody in your head who you're not romantically involved with somebody you work with someone you kind of have to continue relationship with.

And someone you kind of care about and you have a relationship with so I don't want you to pull up the person who cut you off at the supermarket when you're trying to park.

I don't want you to pull up someone you're never going to see again in your head right now. I want you to pull up somebody who at the moment, whether it's a friend or a coworker or a person who you have to do work with.

Maybe it's a consultant. Maybe it is your boss. Maybe it is a person that cubicle next to you. Maybe it is your son's teacher.

But it's somebody you have a pretty close relationship with and you kind of need this relationship to continue and let me just say life would be so much easier if you could get along in this moment.

Even though there are times you would really like to pinch their head off and they just they don't get it.

And you don't feel like they're ever probably going to get it and super frustrating.

And you're like if they could just like if they could just be like me if they just if they just hello if they just were realistic about this if they just had a clue if they just had like any sense about them they'd be fine right that person.

And you know what I'm talking about because we all feel that way when we're really mad don't we when we're really mad at someone it's really difficult to see how they are.

Reasonable or intelligent we just think this is just this person has no clue.

And I don't know if I can help them but I have to get along with them. I want you to hold that person in your mind right now.

Okay. Now remember it's got to be somebody that you have to deal with on a regular basis.

And here's what I want you to do. I want you to imagine for a moment that you are standing in their shoes with their experiences with their history.

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