194 SelfWork: How To Make Change Stick
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 21 August 2020
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
I had a patient say to me the other day, not in a complaining way, but sort of in a “can’t believe it” kind of way – “I’ve been in therapy with you now for a year. I thought I’d be here for maybe a couple of months.” I want to share a bit of his story as well as others who’ve used therapy not to simply make immediate changes in the direction they’ve wanted or needed - but to make lasting change. Change that sticks.
There are certainly problems like eating disorders, complex trauma and chronic conditions that take patience and time. And you may need to stay in therapy for quite a while in order to risk very difficult changes. But often, therapy is more solution-focused. So today, in this episode of SelfWork sponsored by BetterHelp, we’re going to focus in on what makes change stick.
Our listener email for today is from someone who says both he and his partner identify with PHD.. So what should they do? I have some ideas...
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello and welcome to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical |
| 0:34.1 | psychologist out of Fayetteville, Arkansas and I'm so glad you're here. I cannot |
| 0:38.9 | believe this is episode 194 and I'm trying to make some plans for episode 200 and I've got a special |
| 0:46.0 | request. You may have been listening to self-work for just a short period of time or |
| 0:50.8 | maybe you're a regular listener. But what I want episode 200 to be all about is |
| 0:56.7 | you. So if you'd use the Speak Pipe feature which can be found in the show notes or on my website at |
| 1:04.2 | Dr Margaret Rutherford.com in the sidebar. |
| 1:07.4 | You just simply click on Speak Pipe and you can leave me up to a minute and a |
| 1:12.1 | half message. |
| 1:13.2 | I'd just love to hear what you've learned from listening to self-work, |
| 1:16.7 | basically what your own self-work has been. |
| 1:19.3 | And also if you can tell me where you're from like |
| 1:22.3 | this is Liz from California or this is Bob from South |
| 1:26.7 | Africa, just wherever you are, I want to hear the diversity of all my listeners, want to celebrate that I'm so grateful to all |
| 1:35.8 | of you so if you'll just take the five minutes to go on Speak Pipe leave me a |
| 1:40.9 | message and I'll try to use as many of them as I can because we've been |
| 1:45.6 | doing this for four years together here at self-work and I could not do it without |
| 1:51.3 | you so episode 200 will be all about you. |
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