#194: How to Love Someone Without Losing Yourself with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

Mary Jelkovsky

Self-love, Body-image, Mental Health, Body Image, Relationships, Women's Health, Self Love, Advice For Women, Self Love For Women, Love Yourself, Education, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.8 • 721 Ratings

🗓️ 15 February 2024

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

There’s often a disparity between how men and women make sacrifices for their relationship. In a long-term partnership, it’s normal and necessary to compromise, but how do we ensure that said compromises don’t make us lose important parts of ourselves in the process? Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to talk about how to identify, communicate, and retain independent parts of ourselves as we embark on a life journey with someone we love. We talk about… - how to keep the “me” within the “we” - is dating objectively harder now than it was in the past? why or why not? - should we go through our partner’s phones as a way to ensure honesty? Remember: when two individuals form a unit, there are parts of their individuality that may be pushed aside. It’s not always a bad thing as long as we acknowledge each other’s individualities within. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, phD, is internationally-recognized as one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awarness has resonated with millions. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tool people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical pscychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of now 3 books: Taking Sexy Back, Loving Bravely, and Love Every Day. Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Get Dr. Alexandra’s new book, Love Every Day here: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/book/ And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon Mentioned In This Episode... Lizzo’s NPR Tiny Desk Concert: https://youtu.be/DFiLdByWIDY?si=KAXcDxpW1aVmA9v2

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0:00.0	Welcome to Mary's Cup of Tea, the Self-Love Podcast for Women.
0:06.6	I'm your host, Mary Jolkowski, an author, speaker, and all-around self-love advocate.
0:12.6	And this is the podcast that will inspire you to love yourself.
0:18.0	Hello, self-lover.
0:19.5	Before we dive into today's podcast episode, I want to make sure you know about my two books on self-love.
0:25.3	If you're struggling with body image or self-acceptance, then I highly recommend you check out my first book, The Gift of Self-Love.
0:32.4	It's a comprehensive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to love who you are.
0:38.8	Thousands of people have this book and the five-star reviews are so amazing. They give me so much
0:44.1	life. So I hope that this is something that can help you too. You can get it wherever books are
0:48.6	sold by searching for the gift of self-love or go to my website, maryscup of tea.com slash book.
0:55.7	After releasing the gift of self-love and reading all your positive feedback, I realized
0:59.8	that we really needed something to keep us going every single day. So not a deep dive workbook,
1:05.4	but maybe like a micro dose of self-love in your daily life, which is why I wrote 100 days of self-love. It's a guided
1:13.0	journal with, you guessed it, 100 prompts, that cover so many areas of life, including body,
1:18.5	identity, purpose, emotions, mindset, relationships, and more. So you can really think of it as
1:24.9	a metaphorical multivitamin, something to keep you going,
1:28.3	or as I like to say, growing on your self-love journey.
1:31.4	You can get this journal wherever books are sold as well by searching for 100 days of self-love
1:36.0	or go to Mary's Cup of Tea.com slash journal.
1:39.2	It's my mission to share all the self-love tea with you, so I hope that both my books and this podcast can do just that.
1:51.8	It's common to lose parts of yourself in a relationship, not in a big, bad, negative way necessarily,
1:59.7	perhaps more in a semi-conscious way, right? Like all relationships
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