194. "Are My Standards TOO High?" - A Much-Needed Conversation on Standards

Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

Beatrice

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 3.4K Ratings

🗓️ 30 March 2023

⏱️ 20 minutes

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Summary

Last week, we had a chat about what it looks like when your standards are actually conditions, and you're too wishy-washy about standing firm in the standards you've set…

This week, I want to talk about what happens when you're TOO strict with your standard-setting, and it actually ends up narrowing your dating pool unnecessarily.

I've heard a lot of people asking whether their standards are "too high," and honestly? I don't believe this is even a thing. Standards aren't high or low; they just are. They're something that you've decided to set and stand behind…

But sometimes, we set them in places that aren't actually aligned with what we're truly seeking in a relationship.

Let's talk about what happens when you set standards from a place of entitlement or outside pressure rather than what will ACTUALLY make you feel safe and secure in a relationship. Because I'm betting that your ego has started an unconscious game of peek-a-boo within your standards…and it's actually starting to sabotage your dating life.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Self-Love Fix Podcast. I'm your host, the Eagle Whisperer, aka Beatrice,
0:13.2	founder of the Self-Tress Alchemy Program formerly known as Self-Love Overcoat Penancy, T-Addict,
0:19.6	and a Self-Tress Embodiment Coach teacher and mentor for deep, luxed bitches who aren't
0:24.7	afraid of the dark. I'm on a mission to redefine Self-Love, to redefine
0:29.4	everything that you think you have to fix about yourself. You're people pleasing,
0:33.8	codependency, your past relationship, and so much more so that you can
0:38.6	alchemize these aspects of yourself into deep, reality-bending levels of self-trust
0:44.0	and next-level self-acceptance. In this podcast, we don't believe you need fixing.
0:49.2	Here, the only thing we repair is the way you currently view Self-Love,
0:54.6	manifestation, alignment, and dating and relationships. Welcome to the dark side,
0:59.4	where we play in the realm of astrology, ego work, shadow work, virtuality,
1:04.2	mask and fem work, and so much more. Oh, and lots of laughs. Welcome to Self-Love, redefine.
1:11.3	Welcome to the Self-Love Fix.
1:15.2	Hello, and welcome back to the podcast. My name is Beatrice, and I'm your host.
1:20.5	And today, I want to have a conversation, a quick but needed conversation around,
1:27.5	are my standards too high? I've heard this conversation everywhere. I feel like it comes up on
1:34.4	social media. It comes up on podcasts. I've also had clients ask this before, like, am I asking too
1:40.6	much? Am I, are my standards too high? I actually don't believe this question is really what we need to
1:46.8	be asking ourselves. I actually think this is a distraction from really what's at hand,
1:52.1	because if you really think about it, what constitutes a high standard? Like, what standard of measurement
1:58.8	are we using to determine what is or isn't a high standard? I don't, a standard just is, like,
2:04.6	a standard is something that you say, this is what I stand behind. Hopefully, hopefully, it's actually
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