191-Abuse Part2: Boundaries
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
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🗓️ 20 November 2018
⏱️ 26 minutes
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Summary
When I work with women, I think the biggest problem is they don't have boundaries. And for them to slowly strategically come out of abusive relationships and cause their marriage to thrive instead of the abusive, they have to have boundaries. But it might not look the way you think it will look.
I grew up without boundaries myself. And So I never learned that I was responsible for me: my feelings, my thoughts, my choices, my property, my own things, my privacy... So naturally when I got married, I didn't think I owned these things either. And I didn't think my husband did either. Especially hearing the "two will become one flesh", to me that meant that I owned him and he owns me. So we had to be the same.
However that doesn't work.
How do you create boundaries in your marriage? How do you make sure those boundaries are respected?
And should we always be "honest" with our husbands? I don't think so necessarily.
I look forward to our conversation!
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| 0:00.0 | Hi there and welcome, welcome, welcome. I am so grateful that you are joining me on the Delight Your Marriage podcast. If this is your first time here, thank you so much. And if you've been listening for a while, I just want to thank you so much. And thank you for being patient with me. My computer broke last, and the thing I got to replace it broke. |
| 0:23.7 | And so we're just, we're having some technical difficulties on my side. |
| 0:27.6 | So I'm recording this on my phone if there's some background noise or, you know, |
| 0:31.8 | I don't have the nice editing before and after intro and outro like I like to have for you. |
| 0:36.3 | But hopefully you're still going to |
| 0:38.6 | gain something valuable from this podcast. So I wanted to talk about boundaries. We are talking |
| 0:47.1 | about abuse in this series because I think that we don't talk about it. We don't talk about |
| 0:53.8 | it young adults. We don't talk about it. Um, we don't talk about it, uh, young adults. |
| 0:55.1 | We don't talk about domestic violence to young adults like we should, I think in the church |
| 1:00.2 | and outside of the church. |
| 1:01.6 | And, um, we don't teach it in our churches about what to do about abuse. |
| 1:06.2 | Um, we simply say, don't get divorced. |
| 1:09.3 | And, um, I, I just want just want to speak to that because I've been abused in my |
| 1:16.2 | past marriage. I talk about that on the previous episode called Blinders. So I encourage you to |
| 1:21.7 | listen to that just to give a little bit of a sense that I was so blind. But today what I want to talk about is continuing on is that not necessarily when you find out |
| 1:33.3 | that you have been abused or you are in an abusive relationship, that the most, the best thing to do is to bolt. |
| 1:43.3 | That's not necessarily the best option. It might be. I'm not, |
| 1:48.3 | I'm not, I'm not saying absolutely not, but what I like to think of is almost like this idea of |
| 1:58.0 | the strategic directory, trajectory. So it's kind of like you find out that you're in an |
| 2:05.0 | abusive relationship and then you see that there is a path that's going to be a long path, |
| 2:11.7 | but there is a path to go and get out of it. And so this is the first step, boundaries, is for you to see where to go next, that there is a path to get out of it. |
| 2:29.0 | And so I work with women, you know, coaching them, and this is something that I think is really foundational, |
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