190- Abuse, Part I: Blinders

Delight Your Marriage

Belah Rose

Health & Fitness, Religion & Spirituality, Sexuality, Christianity

4.7 • 589 Ratings

🗓️ 15 November 2018

⏱️ 34 minutes

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(So sorry, my computer broke so I wasn't able to edit and this is late, but I think the content is all there!)

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I was abused and I was completely unaware at the time. Because he was spiritually gifted I trusted him. But he wasn't exhibiting the fruits of the spirit.

If you're being abused, it's so hard to see what's really going on in your marriage because something that's inherent in abuse is blinders. Today, I talk about my own experience with abuse in my first marriage, and what it took to get the blinders off for me.

And then not only removing your blinders, but then what is your next step after becoming clear on what's really going on in your marriage. And then to make wise action towards what I believe can completely transform him.

This is the beginning of a series of DYM shows on abuse. There's many different levels, categories and types of abuse towards women in many aspects of life. I want to help a woman who is currently in an abusive situation to think through the really difficult areas to walk the hard strategic road to recovery that I believe is possible.

Please note: I am not a licensed therapist or social worker and I cannot provide that "professional" guidance. But this is what I have learned through my story and the suffering I went through and what I have helped some of my coaching clients out of.

Regardless of my credentials, we need to be helping women in this extremely common and devastating arena.

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The resource I referenced about getting support around domestic violence and abuse is www.nomore.org

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0:00.0	Hi there and welcome. This is Bella Rose and I am so glad that you are joining me today.
0:08.3	I wanted to talk about something that is kind of foundational to this ministry and something that has been so important in my life that I kind of forget sometimes that people are still
0:29.7	going through this.
0:32.5	What I'm talking about is abuse in marriage.
0:37.2	Now, I suffered abuse in my first marriage. And when I say
0:41.1	suffered, I mean suffered. It was traumatic. It was trauma-filled two years of my life. A lot of
0:51.9	women probably listening to this podcast have been doing it for years and years and years.
1:01.2	And my heart goes out to them.
1:04.2	By God's grace, I got out of that marriage in one piece.
1:10.1	A lot of women don't. And so what I want to talk about today
1:16.1	is our blinders. What I've decided to do actually on this topic is go through a eight-part
1:25.8	series about abuse.
1:30.4	The reason I want to do that is because I feel like a lot of women are in abusive marriages,
1:40.7	and they think they're doing what God wants them to do while being abused. That's what I thought.
1:52.1	And I think women like that are listening to my podcasts and trying to figure out how they can
1:58.5	make their marriages better while suffering this abuse.
2:04.3	And I think God has given me the grace to coach women out of that abuse and actually make
2:11.1	their husbands happier in the process. And clearly, and definitely make themselves happier and more fulfilled and more on purpose with
2:22.0	what God wants them to do and be.
2:26.1	So like I said, it is foundational to this ministry because if you're in an abusive marriage,
2:40.1	you could do all the techniques or sexual X, Y, and Z.
2:43.3	You could take my courses, you could read my book,
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