190. The You Love & You Learn One Ft. Sarah Yudkin

Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

Ali Jackson

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.2 • 659 Ratings

🗓️ 7 October 2024

⏱️ 79 minutes

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Summary

Do you experience anxiety in dating and relationships? Worrying that you’ll say the wrong thing, be in the wrong relationship, or ruin things with the right one? Sarah Yudkin, relationship anxiety coach and host of You Love and You Learn podcast, has some soothing words for you (and us!). Sarah shares how her own experience with her now fiance shaped her relationship anxiety work and we discuss issues such as: knowing if it’s your gut or anxiety, how to bring up anxiety with your partner, and dealing with outside opinions about your relationship.

But first, Erica & Ali are back from Chicago and reminiscing about the show and their time in the city (which joins NYC for one of the worst cities to date, apparently). Ali reveals Skyline’s surprise for her end-of-corporate celebration and Erica makes an very fun purchase.

Where to find Sarah: On Instagram @youloveandyoulearn, on TikTok @youloveandyoulearn, at www.youloveandyoulearn.com

Timestamps: Sarah joins us at around minute 33.

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0:00.0	But sometimes people do have non-negotiables that are like, this is something that I do need, or this is a deal breaker for me.
0:07.5	So I think understanding that and trusting those pieces is an important foundation to understanding, like, how you want to create a relationship.
0:16.2	Whereas if you notice, oh, you know, they said something that I thought was kind of cringy or, you know, I don't really like that shirt today or like their hair doesn't look great.
0:25.7	If you notice that like those little things keep showing up, what I ask my clients to reflect a lot on is like what feels so uncomfortable about that?
0:34.5	Is it that you think other people are judging that situation?
0:37.3	Or are you feeling like people are judging that situation? Or are you
0:39.0	feeling like there's some sort of like feeling coming up of maybe irritation and you don't want
0:45.5	to feel that? So you try to control that part of your partner or something. A lot of times we
0:50.0	kind of nitpick or control or fixate on things because we're feeling out of control in some way.
0:56.0	So it can actually be a really powerful invitation to learn how to sit in the discomfort, so to speak,
1:02.6	and learn that you actually can tolerate a little bit of uncomfortable feelings.
1:07.1	You don't have to always fix them or make them go away.
1:20.9	Okay. feelings, you don't have to always, like, fix them or make them go away. Hey, everybody.
1:21.6	Welcome back to Finding Mr. Right, the podcast.
1:23.7	I am your co-host, Eric Spir-Hut.
1:25.6	And I'm Allie Jackson.
1:27.0	We are now officially back from the Chicago trip for real this time. Shout out to everybody that came. It was a hell of a time. So thank you, my God. Good time. Chicago, you're so fun. You're so fun. Very fun. And shout out to the Lincoln Lodge. Fantastic place. highly recommend going to see some type of show there comedy show variety show they have like
1:27.5	everything and it's a little bit more And shout out to the Lincoln Lodge. Fantastic place. I highly recommend going to see some type of show there,
1:45.3	comedy show, variety show.
1:46.4	They have like everything and it's a locally run spot.
1:49.9	Please support it.
1:50.8	It's a great venue.
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