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My parents are here visiting Marginville. They're here six months out of the year six months in Michigan and six months here in Southern California.

And it's great most of the time. They're actually really fun to be around and they're fun to watch, I guess because

maybe they took for granted as a kid. I didn't realize until I was an adult some of the things they do that makes their marriage strong because it's all I knew.

And now that I'm around other couples now that I married myself now that my kids have a relationship while my son has a girlfriend, my daughter is in dating anyone right now,

but I noticed that they learn how to treat their spouse. They learn how to argue. They learn how to resolve conflict. They learn how to praise each other and compliment each other.

They learn how to lift each other up from watching their parents. And I'll bet this is true for you too.

That you have so many friends who perhaps they didn't have great role models and their own parents or maybe it was you yourself.

You didn't have great marriage role models, but you've watched other people. So let me preface this by saying you don't have to have parents who are still married to know what it takes to have a strong relationship.

So the very first commitment that I want to talk to you about is the most important commitment other than your commitment to God and your faith.

And that is your commitment to your family. If your commitment to your family is a decision to do what's in the best interest of your family, that's it.

It starts and ends with that. If you want to do what's in the best interest of your family, that's a simple decision.

I did not say it would be easy, but it's simple. That means you don't do what's easiest for you.

It means that you put your ego sometimes aside. It means that there are other things that might look greener over there.

It might mean that you certain days would like to figure out what state you could murder your husband in and serve the least amount of time or perhaps avoid the death penalty.

I just, but I'm really not kidding because I think if you make a commitment to your family first, then you'll always make a decision that's in their best interest. And I'm sorry.

Feel free to disagree with me. It doesn't matter what kind of money or opportunities or whatever else you have.

If your family is broken busted, you will not be happy. You just won't. It's true.

So Margin Biller here, my mom and dad, and they've been married for close to 50 years, 48 years, I think.

And I'm always asking them, hey, so why do you think you guys are still together? And what do you think the secret to marriages?

And what would you tell other couples that need the same age? And it's so funny. First of all, they always argue with each other.

And they always give me a different response. But the one thing they always come back to is they always say it was just a decision.

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