This is Hello Freedom and I'm your host Terry Cole.

For almost two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist and transformation coach, and on this show I will bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations

from my time on the front lines of the fascinating

worlds of entertainment, empowerment, and mental health.

Now let's get going with today's episode. and I'm so excited that you decided to hang out with me today.

I want to start by asking you a couple of questions.

Are you aware that in your own life that either you are asking people

ludicrous questions or that they're asking you

ludicrous questions but they're unspoken right so I came upon this deck of cards called Ludi cues, right?

Ludicrous questions that either we're asking ourselves or other people are asking us.

So I'm going to tell you how it works and then I'll tell you about who created them and

I have an interview with her actually.

Jan Black is her name.

So the top five ludicues in relationships.

So these are unspoken ludicrous questions and they come disguised as something else, right?

Usually as something that is meant for our own good or the good of someone or something that we care about.

And this is what makes them confusing, frustrating, and dangerous.

So, on our site she talks about that they did a search for the most common relationship problems and then transform them into

Luticues as we like to call them. So here are the unspoken questions behind five common relationship issues.

Number five, will you be my scapegoat, question mark?

Number four, may I hurt you and blame you for it.

Number three, will you believe I'm not lying when I am?

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