The wonderful thing about pain and anxiety is that we have the power to free ourselves from it. Many of the overwhelming feelings we are having now are rooted somewhere in our past. Something devastating caused our young minds to create a program to follow, so we didn't have to feel that way ever again.

As we grow, the ability to address our fears and overcome our 'victim story' becomes available to us. We are able to comfort our younger selves by self-parenting and through work that is healing. We also have the ability to acknowledge our need for protection, thank it for its service to us and move our energy to where we need it now. We can then replace our impulsive responses with our inner voice, which is guided by our intuition.

In between stimulus and response we have a choice and in that choice lies our freedom. – Viktor Frankl - Man's search for meaning

Our caller, Nicole, is struggling to find her true intuition. She feels it may be lost to her or clouded over by her deep-seated anxiety. She has used her anxiety for many years to protect herself, but now realizes it is time to get over it and on with it so that she could enjoy a deeper life.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you suffer from anxiety? Is there something you would like to be free of?
• Whenever you try anything new, does it come with a lot of fear?
• Do you prefer control over uncertainty?
• Did something happen in your past that might still be impacting you, but you are not sure what to do about it?

 

Nicole's Question:

Nicole has anxiety-driven panic attacks and lacks self-confidence. She longs to have a deeper life and become connected to the world.    

 

Nicole's Key Insights and Aha's:

• She uses her anxiety as a source of protection
• She needs to feel she is in control of a situation
• As a child, she felt vulnerable
• Intuition will be clearer when anxiety subsides
• She needs to respond rather than react
• It's OK for her to make mistakes

 

How to get over it and on with it:

• She should tell her younger self "things will be alright"
• Say "I accept" & then "I am choosing to"
• Interrupt the patterns of anxiety
• Turn up the volume of her calm inner voice
• Understand the difference between resignation and acceptance

 

Tools and Takeaways:

• Think about the "big deals" or significant events in your life. What belief systems were formed then that might be impacting you today?
• Tell yourself the things you needed to hear during your "big deals"
• Understand that it was not your fault
• How does your protective mechanism serve you? Give it a new job description

 

Resources:

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