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Mindfulness Mode

189 Surrender To Fear To Reach Peace Says Relationship Expert Erik Newton

Mindfulness Mode

Bruce Langford

Health & Fitness, Health & Fitness:alternative Health, Religion & Spirituality, Education, Spirituality, Self-improvement, Alternative Health

4.8541 Ratings

🗓️ 9 February 2017

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Erik Newton is a relationship guy. He formerly worked as a family law attorney & helped thousands of couples get divorced. As a result, Erik understands the nuts & bolts of relationships and their full life cycle from beginning to end. His expertise in relationships led him to team up with a psychologist friend to lead premarital courses for couples, offering them real-life skills so they wouldn’t need a divorce attorney. Erik’s passion for helping couples get mindfully connected and ultimately build healthier relationships caused him to transition from law to working full-time creating a place where couples can go for information, inspiration and real truth. That place is an extensive on-line resource called TOGETHER, found on the web at www.Together.Guide. Contact Info Website: www.Together.guide Podcast: Together - The Podcast Most Influential Person My mom. Effect on Emotions My emotions are less terrifying. My emotions now happen and pass through and I can enjoy them fully for what they are; the good and the bad. I'm less attached to avoiding them. I'm less attached to seeking the good and avoiding the bad. I allow both much more frequently. Thoughts on Breathing Breathing is a great way to occupy mind. I find that focus on breath allows mind to have something to do so that being can be. It's when minds chitter chatter is quieted for a moment; is occupied by immediate experience that being can unfold for me. Often times I'll use breath to calm and quiet my mind; to allow the universe to settle. Suggested Resources Book: Your Brain on Sex: How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life by Stan Siegel App: None Bullying Story I'll make a distinction between what I believe is true and my identity's experience of my past. My identity has it that when I was a kid I was a nerd and I was bullied. My identity has it that I was often betrayed by people who were close to me and when I was younger it was how they became cool kids; by beating up on the dork. And when I was older, for some reason I think it was a pattern I was creating. It all fit into this rubrik; this view of how the world worked and how I fit into the world that ultimately I would be betrayed by the people who were close to me and that was a bullying mechanism when I was a kid. The truth is I don't think that's the case anymore. There were experiences and I interpreted them through a particular lense because I have a mind and my mind is limited. The truth is something much greater. My experience through a lot of my life was resisting bullying.

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0:00.0

Mindfulness mode 189.

0:03.0

The more I surrender to the fear, the more peaceful I become, and the more peaceful I become, the more the activity of my life rises spontaneously and less driven by fear.

0:13.0

Hey, Mindful Tribe, so good to have you with us again today. I'm Bruce Langford, mindfulness mode host and mindfulness life coach.

0:22.3

Last time, I featured a guest who told his story of reaching despair and desperation in his life

0:29.3

and then began to discover his own form of mindfulness and what he called prayer walks on a dark country road in Mississippi.

0:40.3

If you haven't heard Dr. Phil Carson's story of how he rose back up to success,

0:46.3

you may want to go back and check out episode 188.

0:51.3

Right now I'm building my Facebook group called Mindfulness Mode Group. It would be great to see you there.

0:58.0

So check it out on Facebook. Mindfulness Mode group and just click for an invite and I'll put you right into that group. My guest today, Mindful Tribe, is responsible for the divorce of hundreds of couples.

1:13.6

He was a successful divorce lawyer until he realized he was more interested in keeping couples together

1:22.6

and helping them strengthen their relationships than he was in cementing the divorce. I can understand how he must

1:30.8

have felt. Now he's a successful relationship expert with deep wisdom on the topic. This interview

1:39.2

will intrigue you. Sit back and joy and just take in all the wisdom of my special guest today.

1:50.9

Okay, mindful tribe, let's get started. I am really excited. I've been looking forward to this for

1:56.9

quite a while. I have Eric Newton on the line today. Hey, Eric, are you in mindfulness mode?

2:03.2

Oh, without question. Yes. Of course. I knew it could be no other way. Well, so we might as

2:10.5

well start with that, Eric. What does mindfulness mean to you? That's the fundamental question for your

2:16.3

show, isn't it? It really is, yeah.

2:18.6

Yeah, what is it?

2:20.0

Well, for me, mindfulness is really the act of being present to what is.

2:27.6

I hope that doesn't sound too mystical.

2:29.7

It sounds very mystical.

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