This is the Terry Cole show and as you might have guessed I'm your host Terry Cole

For over two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist love and boundaries

expert and I'm also the founder of the Rail of Revolution and Boundary Boot Camp.

On this show I'll bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology,

inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations from my time on the front lines in the fascinating

world of entertainment, empowerment, and mental health.

Now let's get going with today's episode. Well, hello and welcome to this week's episode where we're going to be talking about

how to opt out of drama in your life, especially unnecessary drama that

actually doesn't even have to do with you. So I want you to think about who's in

your life right now. We have all different types of friendships and

relationships but I find from being a psychotherapist for 22 years that people

will fall into particular categories of the way that they relate to the world and how they

relate in their relationships. So I wanted to make it easy so I made some

archetypes for you so that you could actually see you could see yourself in those archetypes or you could see the people in your life in those

archetypes. So I'm going to take it from the top and then I'm going to move into some ways that you

can actually opt out of the drama that you don't need in your life.

So let's start with the first archetype which is the victim.

So no fancy name for that, you know exactly who this is, this is a

friend, a sibling someone who no matter what story they're telling, no matter what they're

talking about, they are being wronged by someone else.

They're the friends that say, well, if my boss wasn't such a jerk or if my sister hadn't betrayed

me, or if my best friend hadn't run off with my

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