184. The ShrinkChicks One ft. Jennifer Chaiken & Emmalee Bierly
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast
Ali Jackson
4.2 • 659 Ratings
🗓️ 26 August 2024
⏱️ 91 minutes
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Summary
Erica & Ali could not HELP but let this interview with ShrinkChicks (aka Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT & Emmalee Bierly, LMFT) run a bit long because, y’all, it is incredible. The foursome starts off discussing how difficult it can be to find a therapist and offer some advice for navigating that journey. Then, we move into our most popular listener submission: boundaries and conflict. What is a boundary, anyway? How best to set one to invite closeness (because it turns out that’s what boundaries are for!)? Is there a right way to handle conflict in any type of relationship? And so much more.
In Updates, Erica gets film back from a recent taping while Ali reunites with Skyline after 3 weeks apart.
Where to find Jennifer & Emmalee: On Instagram @shrinkchicks, on TikTok @shrinkchicks, at www.shrinkchicks.com and on the ShrinkChicks Podcast.
Timestamps: Jennifer & Emmalee join us at around minute 24.
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| 0:00.0 | I love that you normalize that you might need to or want to move on from a therapist and that that's, you know, something that is okay because I think that's something that I really struggled with because unfortunately my therapist was very resistant to that. |
| 0:14.9 | And it was a situation where I sought her out. |
| 0:18.4 | I was in active grief. |
| 0:19.5 | My dad had passed away. |
| 0:21.3 | And I sought out somebody who was very well versed in that work and worked with her |
| 0:27.2 | for several years, four years maybe I forget now. |
| 0:30.6 | But long enough that I was no longer, that was no longer an omnipresent thing. |
| 0:35.7 | And I was like, okay, I'm now ready to start working on other shit that I have. But I don't, you don't seem to be able to go there with me. Yeah. I keep going back to the dad thing. And not that we're past it because I'll never be, but like, that's not the thing right now. Yeah, the other thing. I think, listen, the only caveat I have to say is, |
| 0:55.0 | first of all, if you're ready to leave a therapist, it is your time to leave a therapist. The only person gets to decide that is you. The caveat I will say is if you, if you've worked a therapist for four years and you email them, you're like, just kidding, I'm done now. And they're like, no, no, let's come in for a session to process. |
| 0:52.2 | I mean, yeah. |
| 0:52.7 | You might want to process that one session out. |
| 0:55.8 | Totally. |
| 0:56.1 | People be like, well worked with them for 10 years but they never let me |
| 1:16.3 | like but they wanted to have a follow-up session i'm like yeah no shit bro it was a decade so like |
| 1:20.3 | right so like but that's the caveat like but for you to know like what we're into is people |
| 1:25.8 | becoming experts on themselves. |
| 1:32.7 | Like for me, because what we know is in this day and age, especially for millennial generation, |
| 1:34.4 | we have an income problem. |
| 1:38.3 | So sometimes people truly cannot afford to go to therapy that much. So let's give people the skills to do it. |
| 1:40.2 | And if you know yourself well enough to say, this isn't feeling good or I want to cancel |
| 1:43.9 | my sessions all the time or I'm avoiding all them, there should be space to process that with the |
| 1:48.0 | therapist. And if they cannot hear you and respect you as the expert on yourself back to Find a Mr. |
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