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This is brilliant for conflict, whether it's marriage, friends, whatever, in the context of marriage, there was where I heard this.

I can't remember if I shared this on the air before, but I think if I can't remember then, you know, nobody else probably does either.

But my friend told me that his, their counselor, he and his wife said, when they're disagreeing, to say, I am imagining that you got that done.

Meaning, I'm imagining that you are mad because of this or I'm imagining, but it puts it in the context. Here's what I'm imagining.

So that it's not, you're not concretely saying this is what you think or this is what you're saying.

Yeah, I'm imagining that you're trying to do this because of that. So now we've just changed the thing.

You've said what you think is happening, but you've couched it in a humble. This is what, this is what's going on in my head.

Okay.

And then we can address why that's not a correct thing, but it's just a nice step to depersonalize it a little bit and then put yourself in a more humble space.

I think it's brilliant.

Huh.

Wonder what people will think of this. A Japanese airline is doing clothing rental at your destination.

So you get off the plane.

You don't have to bring all your clothes.

Huh.

I think it's really brilliant and that you rent it's cheap too, but you can get you pick a size and tell them you, you know, tick the boxes on my line about what you mean.

Okay. And then your clothes are just waiting for you to get there.

They send it to you at the hotel that you're saying you're going to be at.

Okay.

And then you presumably have to give it back to them whenever you leave it.

So you're wearing clothes that strangers have worn last week.

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