You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we're talking about what to do

when your partner doesn't want to work on themselves or the relationship.

So this is such a common one. I know for so many people who I work with, in fact, in the last

couple of weeks, I feel like I fielded variations on this from a number of people in my

Healing Anxious Attachment course and community space. I feel like a lot of people in my healing anxious attachment course and community space.

I feel like a lot of people are struggling with this.

And as is always the case, if a small sample that I'm interacting with is struggling with it,

I'm sure that more people in my broader community are struggling with it as well.

And it can be so frustrating and defeating.

It's certainly a situation that I've personally been in. And as I said, comes up a lot amongst the people that I work with. So I want to

share some thoughts today on what do you do if you find yourself in this situation where you are

really wanting to work on the relationship and maybe you're really doing a lot of work on yourself.

And you really want your partner to be on board with that. Maybe you're really excited about

all of the things you're learning and you can really see the benefits. But your partner is

disinterested, not willing to engage and maybe really actively pushes back against any

attempts that you might make to

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