Hey there podcast listener out there. Yes you I'm talking to you it is Stephen Hussey here host of the love life podcast

last back with another episode for you today on what is for me a bar me lovely spring evening here in Essex in England where I live and I want to talk today I want to follow up today on an episode we did the one before last where we talked about micro attractions the concept the idea that often the thing that makes us full head over heels in love with someone of the tiny under the radar the

behaviors that are often subtle but only we see and we notice it and something clicks in our brain and we think God this person is amazing that unlike anyone I've ever met and so I asked you send me examples of your times you notice these micro attractions in your own life with people you fall in in love with and you guys did send some emails in so I want to read some of them today and have a look at what those amazing moments were for you

our first email is from Elizabeth Elizabeth says hey there I was listening to the episode about micro attractions I met a guy in Ibiza last summer and we totally hit it off spent the night together and found out later that weekend that he has a young son the fact that someone can have fun and be care free and also be a loving dad was so attractive we still talk even though he lives in Barcelona Spain and I live in Chicago USA

who knows what the future holds I love that Elizabeth the the idea of seeing someone who has this part of their life you don't know about but you know you it's revealed to you gradually and you see well he has this loving relationship with a young son

but he can kind of also have fun relax let loose yeah that's a that's a unique combination another one here from

Laura who says my favorite micro moment was when he asked if I was hungry and I said no but he ordered a mild curry even though he likes spicy food brackets I don't do spice because he knew I'd be jealous of him eating when he got back and that way I could eat with him that made me feel so loved

um that's a great one Laura uh the I I mean I always love it in relationship an important thing for me is thoughtfulness and just

if someone does one of those little things where you realize they didn't have to at all but they just thought of you in that moment and they know you and they get you and they're like I knew you'd want some of these when you got back I knew you'd be hungry so I bought you this or I grabbed you this from the shop when when I went out to get groceries um yeah that stuff's adorable I agree

another here from Karen who said uh I want to email you about guys about the microtraction moments I had with my boyfriend let me tell you I did not think we'd get this far on our first couple of dates I really thought this guy was scamming me somehow because it seemed way too good to be true

whether it's how he looks all the way he does that or all the things he does all the way he thinks it was perfectly in line with my values and how I'd picture my boyfriend or even husband

too young to say it but there it is he's sweet and gentle and I could just see how involved and committed he was from day one

I still have those moments of microtractions with him where he says or does something without realizing that make me think there is nobody like him

he wasn't scared of telling his family about me or meeting mine he isn't and was never scared about talking of the future even though he will be moving to Germany where he's from in a couple of months

he wasn't scared of planning a trip even though we had been together for only two months it's like he knew we were going to make it

he knew nothing bad enough could possibly happen that would break us I was questioning the relationship every day because it was so perfect and I was constantly thinking it would be over any second

but he's truly changed my perception of a perfect relationship um thank you Karen uh I'm so happy that you have that certainty and someone who

you know I think so many people put up with less than certainty and you know there's obviously people may need time to decide they are fully all in on a relationship but I think your case is inspiring for people who think that they have to put up with someone always not being sure of what they want of kind of

dilly dallying around messing them around and someone like you proves that you can when you meet someone who just knows what they want as one of my criteria I'm always saying you should look for

in the early stages of dating someone who knows what they want and who wants the same things as you and once you have that and it just clicks that easily

everything runs so much smoother and you think god why did I put up with so much uncertainty before what the hell was I thinking

being with someone who didn't know if they want to be with me and all that crap uh yeah it's like a breath of fresh air so

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