Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mark Groves podcast. I've always been quite curious about

how do we get better at communication in relationships. And of course, in our romantic relationships, or I'd

even say our relationship with our parents, they're often the most sensitive, right, to

communication. Like our reactivity is most heightened. And you think about work, right? Like,

at work, we tend to build up more emotional resilience because the cost of reacting at work is you might

lose your job. And so ironically, some of the, one of the sort of strangest things is that we tend

to put up with more at work. We tend to be better at work. We tend to be kinder and more gentle

and more intentional about our communication. And although that's obviously

important because our survival is connected to it in a lot of ways, it's crazy to me that we don't

save the best versions of us for our partners in actually a lot of ways we bring our worst

versions of ourselves. We bring bring our worst versions of ourselves.

We bring the most reactive versions of ourselves.

And I think that's due to a few things. One, the willpower gets exhausted throughout the day and in other relationships where we sort of

restrain ourselves more.

And also, I think it's because there's this idea, especially if we've gotten married

and we've made this commitment. Maybe we accepted a relationship request on Facebook, right?

There's like this level of commitment that we think we can do that and there's more tolerance.

For in a lot of ways, are bullshit are bullshit right and we don't learn how

to stretch ourselves how to be better how to lean into the tenderness of the reactivity to discover

where does the wound originate where does it come from because if you can learn how to master

dialogue and communication from a non-reactive place,

and of course the world is so triggering in so many ways, especially the tenderness of our

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