Porn Free Radio episode 178, take two. I started recording this episode yesterday, and right as I hit record, I got a phone call. And you know how it is when you get a phone call these days. It's like my pocket was buzzing because my phone was in my pocket. My watch was vibrating because it's connected to the phone. Even my computer in the corner, there was a

notification going off. There's an incoming call from the 773 area code. Now, I assumed it was my

wife because she's got a six cents for when I hit the record button. And so I quickly answered

without looking. And it was a guy. It wasn't my wife. He was asking for help.

And he had had a relapse recently. It was in a position we've all been in where he was trying to pick up the pieces and figure out how to move forward.

Now I asked a few questions and there were a couple guys in his life who, you know, he had

been honest with about this struggle in the past, a friend and then another guy who ran a group,

a men's group. And what I told him to do is what I told, you know, tell everyone to do. I said,

you know, I think you really would benefit from creating a draft of a recovery plan.

And I sent him a link to the, you know, porn free this year, my video.

And, you know, I'll share the link in just a second with you guys.

But, you know, I told them to go watch this video, download the worksheet, and draft a plan today. And then I said,

what's really going to make that process helpful is if you reach out to your buddies and say,

hey, you want to get together this week and go over the draft of your plan. And when you go through

the plan with them,

you want to ask them for feedback. You know, is there anything I can do to make this stronger?

Is there anything I can do? Do you see anything that's missing? And then, you know,

after you ask for feedback, ask for their help. You know, maybe the next 30 days you could get together once a week and review your plan

with them.

Or maybe the frequency might be more.

Maybe you text them every day or have a fast check-in by phone every day, something like

that.

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