Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. Life sometimes just doesn't go the way we wanted to. But does that mean in and of itself that our lives have to be unhappy if we've failed in life.

Obviously, I believe it doesn't.

I think we can have beautiful lives no matter what.

And that's what we're going to explore today in this podcast is how to have a beautiful life even when we failed.

First, what is failure, particularly in regards to my happiness, because that's the key concept.

Failure only matters in regards to what we think of it.

It really doesn't matter what other people think of us.

Because we all know people who have much less than us, have accomplished much less than us,

but yet are clearly happier and at peace.

And we know other people who have far more than us have

accomplished far greater things than we ever will, and yet they're apparently quite unhappy and may even commit suicide. So the key factor here is it doesn't

really matter in regards to failure what's happening externally.

What really matters is what we think about ourselves and what we've accomplished

or not accomplished.

I know it can make a difference if our parents look in our face and tell us that we're a loser.

That's going to matter.

But we don't have to let those statements in, and only we let them in. if we do we have to reinforce them. So let's say our

parents called us a loser. Now they may have said it once our entire lives

so even let's say they said it 20 times throughout our lives.

Let's say they said it a hundred times. But what's going to matter is how many times we

hear it in our head over and over and over again and believe it.

Now mind you, boundaries here are quite important.

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