Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff.

Over the past 30 years, the one thing I've deeply learned is that if we want to be happy, if we want to find peace in our lives, we have to be kind towards ourselves and others.

It's as if kindness is the foundation on which happiness arises.

But the other thing that I've learned in life is that it's quite hard for people to be kind,

kind towards themselves or others.

And this starts at a young age. We don't we all know children, perhaps even remembering our own past,

where someone hurts them, and what do they want to do?

They're going to hurt them back.

We see this in so many places in our world, but I think the place we can

see it most often is when we're driving. I live in Southern California and we have a lot of

cars here. And just the other day I was driving to work and one

car had accidentally pulled out in front of another car and that car had to slow down.

Well he was so man that he got in front of the other car and I swear he's trying to get that person to crash or do something really dangerous to themselves because he was so angry at her for pulling out in front of him.

So in today's episode, we're going to work her for pulling out in front of him.

So in today's episode, we're going to work on ways that we can learn to be kind towards

others and ourselves.

I deeply believe that when we develop kindness towards ourselves and others, we will begin to

find more peace in our hearts and happiness.

So let's start with the first question I'm sure all of us may have. Why should we allow or let someone

who's hurt us not be punished? Why don't we get them back? Why aren't we

remain back to them? And this circles back to really the core of unkindness. Where does unkindness come from? It comes from

our conditioning. We're conditioned to behave in a certain way.

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