178: Do You Need To Be Fully Healed To Date Again?

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Sabrina Zohar

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 4.8K Ratings

🗓️ 19 December 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Do you need to be fully healed before you can have a healthy relationship? In episode 3 of 4 in the Clarity Series, Sabrina dismantles one of the biggest myths in dating and personal growth: that you must be perfect, secure, or “done healing” before you’re worthy of love. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and real-life dating dynamics, she explains why so many people feel fine when they’re single but get triggered the moment they start dating and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed your healing journey . This episode explores the difference between awareness and real change, healing alone versus healing in relationships, and how avoidance can masquerade as self-work. You’ll learn what “being ready to date” actually looks like, how to stop hiding behind healing, and how to build self-trust by responding differently when you’re triggered. If you struggle with anxious attachment, dating anxiety, relationship patterns, or feeling stuck despite therapy and self-work, this conversation will reframe how you approach dating, growth, and emotional safety moving forward. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Try out Rho Nutrition and get 20% off sitewide with my code SABRINA at: https://rhonutrition.com/discount/SABRINA This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Baked by Melissa is offering our listeners 20% off your order at Bakedbymelissa.com/SABRINA Treat yourself to gear that looks good, feels good, and doesn’t break the bank with Fabletics. Go to Fabletics.com/SABRINA and sign up as a VIP and get eighty percent off everything! ============================= Chapters 00:00 Do You Need to Be Fully Healed to Be in a Relationship? 01:45 Why Healing Feels Like It Disappears When You Start Dating 04:10 The Myth of Being “Healed Enough” 07:00 Healing Alone vs Healing in Relationships 10:10 Why Feeling Fine When Single Doesn’t Mean You’re Ready 13:15 Awareness vs Real Change in Dating Patterns 16:05 When “Working on Yourself” Is Actually Avoidance 19:05 What Being Ready to Date Really Means 22:10 Why Triggers Are Information, Not Failure 25:00 How Secure Relationships Are Actually Built 28:00 How to Build Self-Trust While Dating 31:10 Final Takeaway: You’re Not Broken, You’re Human Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:50.3	The million dollar question, do you need to be fully healed in order to be in a relationship?
1:11.9	You can do all the healing in the world. You can journal, you can go to therapy, you can read every falcon attachment book. You can become the most self-aware person in your friend group and on the planet. And then you'll get into a relationship. And you are going to be triggered in ways you never imagined possible. because there is only so much healing we can do when we're single versus when we're in relationships, when we have other people that are triggering those different
1:16.0	parts of us. That is when we have to say, what work have I done and how do I want to show up?
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