And someone finds us hard to be with not for the original reason that we were afraid of,

but for the patterns that we demonstrate when we're afraid.

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Welcome to the Love Life podcast where we hope you find the love you want and love the life you already have.

I am here with my wonderful co-host Stephen Audrey Jameson, also known as Jams.

Today, oh my god, you're going to love today. There's so much good stuff coming up.

We talk about retroactive jealousy. We talk about the negative patterns we have at the beginning of relationships

where if we're afraid and we think that someone is going to potentially hurt us or leave us, we go into fight or flight response

and sabotage the whole thing and how do we stop doing that? We read your emails that you have sent in

and we just have a good old time. Join us on the couch for this episode of Love Life.

Who's on a couch?

So, you know, tuck yourself in if you're in bed and listening to this or strap yourself in if you're in the car listening to this.

Any others?

No, I think that's it.

Okay, go ahead.

And let's get started with this episode.

I've started recording, so I just don't want to, let's make sure we don't say anything embarrassing about Matt.

Oh, but just before we start, can you just sort out Matt's girdle, Audrey?

Yeah, just push that in.

Why would I need a girdle when my torso is underneath the table?

What's a girdle?

So, you wear it to stop to, like, keep all your belly in. It's like a corset for men.

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