Hello, hello, hello.

Welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zoha Show.

My name is Sabina Zohar, and I am your host. Hi, babes, happy December or whenever the fuck you're listening. Welcome. I'm excited, guys. So welcome to another part of our series, and this is how we're wrapping up the end of the year. And today we're going to talk about, do they always come back? come back and even if they do what do you do with it and how you can finally move on because

remember we're going towards talk about, do they always come back? And even if they do, what do you do with it and how you can finally move on? Because remember, we're going towards

the end of the year. We're going to let go. And then in the new year, we're going to rebuild. So I'm super stoked. Guys, thank you guys. As always, if you need anything, everything's in the link in bio. You want to join a course, work one-on-one, ask a question, or just download a

free guide. We're here for you, babies. And all I ask is please don't forget to rate and review the show

and just speak with kindness. That's the only thing I'm ask a question or just download a free guide. We're here for you, babies. And all I ask is please

don't forget to rate and review the show and just speak with kindness. That's the only thing I'm asking. You don't have to love it. That's okay. But you get to make a choice and so do I. And I don't have to accept that bullshit. So just a preface. All right, babes. Without further ado, let's get right on into it, shall we? Hi, friends. Welcome back. Happy Friday. Oh, I love this series. I'm really stoked on it because I love getting us ready for the end of the year and do they always come back, right? We hear this all the time. And I've had my fair share of videos that do well when I'm like, if they know, you know, do they always come back, get better boundaries. Okay, not wrong. But I wanted to go into more of the psychology and more understanding what do you actually do with it and how we can set you up for the end of the year so that we can let go of it no matter what. But let's get personal. I babies, I am still, you can even hear, I had COVID. We didn't know it. We tested negative for it. So we were like, okay I guess guess it's not. And then my doctor a week later was like, guess what you had. It's like awesome. And it humbled the fuck out of me. It really did because I couldn't create. I couldn't do anything. I like felt to, you know, it forced me to slow down. And that was really tough for me because I equate productivity with worth. And if I'm not doing my

job and I'm not doing well, and that's been 2025 in a nutshell. Like this has been a very tough year.

And I've shared with you guys. Like I am in the process now of I'm rebuilding me. And if that means

that anybody that listened to me initially is leaving, that's okay. I am no longer doing everything I can to keep everyone in the world into my ecosystem. Now I want to build a community. Now I want to continue to build a community of safety, of love, of support. And that includes how we speak to each other. That is why I'm always big on the, hey, watch how the fuck we comment and what we say.

You don't have to like something.

You don't have to like the ads.

You can fucking pay for it. You don't have to like an episode. You can just move on with your life. But you don't need to put your negativity into everybody else simply because you just don't like something. So you can say you don't like it. That's fine. but we have to learn how to talk to each other.

And I think that's an art that has been lost,

not just with the comments that I get,

but in general, right, whether that be communicating, whether that be talking to an ex or somebody new. And like, that's why I chose this episode was because I want us to finally let go of the shit we don't need to carry with us. I'm struggling with that too. I've seen my entire business shift this year. I saw everything that we did last year isn't working. Socials are different this year. Content is different. Getting audience. Everything is different. And I could either sit and say, whoa, it's me and nothing's ever working and I'm never. Or I could take these opportunities and say, what is this teaching me about myself and how can I rise? How can I keep going? And if there comes a day where I can't keep going, I'll be honest with myself about that. But that day has not come. So I'm excited. I'm stoked. We have some new stuff coming. And hopefully by now you guys are watching this on Spotify, which is something that we're working on to just incorporate more and give you guys more of what you want. So thank you guys. But let's get into the

episode because I think it's really important for us to talk about the important stuff that we're going to. So there's a thing that happens at the end of the year where people start to reach out. You might get that I've been thinking about you text. The New Year's, Hey Stranger, and I know what you're thinking. See, I knew they'd come back. But here's what I actually want to talk about today. Why are you waiting in the first place? Truly, why are you waiting in the first place? I got a text the other day out of nowhere. And it's like, you know, you see the number and it was like, how is Sabrina doing on Halloween? And I was like, who is this? So I went in my old, I got a new iPhone. So I went into my old phone and I typed in the number and the chat came up. And it was a dude I matched with in 2022, the beginning of 2022. We're talking three and a half years later, who I never met. We just, like, I think we FaceTimed. And I remember just thinking, you know, like you get a vibe from someone and you're like, nah, I'm good. And then that person reached out three and a half fucking years later to ask how Sabrina was doing on Halloween. Fine, thank you. Me and my partner and our awesome costume are doing great. Thank you so. I didn't answer. I just moved on with my life. But I really wanted us to talk about that because I know a lot of you guys had written in. And if you want to, the Sabrina Zohar show on Instagram, you can write in questions when I do the question box, baby. So follow along if you haven't already. But some of the questions you guys ask is, how can I differentiate between actually wanting them back and my ego wanting them back? What if you're stuck between being terrified, they won't come back and terrified they will? What are tips to let go and stop hoping and overthinking the passer? How do I know if they come back is not another round of bullshit? And it's real. The real question isn't, will they come back? Some do, some don't. Honestly, that doesn't fucking matter. The real question is, why are you putting your entire life on hold waiting to find out? So today we're talking about what waiting actually does for you psychologically and why it's not hope it's actually avoidance. So this is episode two of the clarity series dating with intention,

and this is going to sting but I think you need to hear it. And I was her. I used to hope like, oh, maybe they'll come back for me to because why? Because why? Well, let's look at underneath the hood, right? I was always hoping that they're going to realize that I'm worthy. They're going to realize I'm deserving. They're going to realize that I'm the most amazing person that they ever had because that gives me worth. That makes me feel validated. That makes me feel like I am worthy of something because if they leap, but they come back for me, similar to my childhood. I was always hoping maybe my dad's going to realize. Maybe my dad will see what an amazing kid I am maybe my dad will

realize the family that he had and it's wild as I say that I can feel the tears welling up

underneath the hood I can feel myself going as my voice wanted to crack because that's what makes

me even realize even more like this has nothing to do with these fucking people.

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