Okay, everybody. Thanks for coming back to We Can Do Hard Things. We're going to jump

right in because we're very excited about the person who is with us today.

May Martin is an award-winning comedian, actor, writer and producer who can be seen starring

in Feel Good, which they also created and co-wrote. May is currently in development with

programmed for Netflix and stars in season two of The Flight Attendant, so cool on HBO

Max. May Martin's Guide to Series About Sexuality and Addiction are available to listen to

on BBC sounds. May is also the author of Can Everyone Please Calm Down, The Guide to

21st Century Sexuality, which our family has been going through like a hilarious family

class for the last month. Welcome, May. Thanks for coming on We Can Do Hard Things.

Thanks for having me. It's so nice to meet you all. This is my wife Abby. This is my sister

Amanda. And you all know this is May. So we have so much to ask you about, but we want

to start with sexuality because that's just an easy subject. We can just get out of the

way real quick. Yeah, just a light, you know, easy breezy. Yeah. And also just because

we enjoyed your book so much. Let's start by talking about why we should talk about sexuality

because I loved your point, which is really sexuality is for everybody, not just queer

people and the poor straight people never get to talk about their sexuality because it

has always seen as something that is just for queer people. But you say in the book,

which I love that gender preferences are kind of the least important part of sexuality.

There's a lot of other parts. Yeah, that's that's been my experience. And definitely

even, yeah, regardless of how you identify, you're rarely attracted to an entire gender,

right? It's to do with pheromones or the way people laugh. I have like very specific

criteria. Yeah. Yeah. I think people often forget that, yeah, it's not just queer people

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