My intention is for a mean to be of significant value to you, mean that you are happy with it and you are also satisfied over time.

That's my intention and that's my expectation and that's what I'm taking responsibility for.

So my understanding is that you are having a fear of failure.

I'm going to suggest a way of thinking about things and I like you to think this way

with me so that we are in good looking hands and looking the same lens and developing the same

understanding to get things done. I'm not suggesting that this way of thinking is true or that

any other way of thinking is false, but I find that very smart people disagree on what's true, so how do I know what's true?

But I do know one thing that's true.

That is how I've been thinking, and I'm inviting you to think this way with me.

Is that okay?

The way most people understand emotions is based on something that is happening or something that has happened.

Why is that guy so angry? Because that other guy kicked him.

Why is that girl so nervous on her date? The guy seems so sweet and kind.

Because on a previous date, the guy insulted her. That is a normal way of understanding things.

I'll give you what I think is a more useful way of thinking about emotions and what causes them,

so that there is a facet of your mind that you are conscious of, where there is awareness, where you might be thinking. Well, i'm doing this on purpose because i intend to

that's the facet of mind that you probably call i it is the more advanced component of mind and probably the

component that you identify with then there's the whole rest of the thing that most people refer to as self.

So you can hear people say, I need to discipline myself, I need to control myself, or I don't

like myself. That comes from the way the mind is developed. In the facet of the mind that isn't conscious,

there's what we may refer to as the processor.

And what I mean by the processor is that things outside of conscious awareness

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