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Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

#171: Dating in 2017

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Authentic Intimacy®

Relationships, Society & Culture, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

4.91.7K Ratings

🗓️ 14 August 2017

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

Fifty years ago, the original Dating Game featured a single young woman who got to choose between three eligible bachelors. Not being allowed to see them, she chose her guy based on his answers to her questions. Now, turn all of that on its head, and welcome to dating in 2017! Men get to be the choosy ones, and sexuality—not personality—gets the win. Is that what it’s really like to be single these days?

Guests: Dr. Mark Regnerus, Lisa Anderson & Brandon Wilson

 

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0:00.0

Hey, welcome to Java with Julie. I'm Julie Slattery, and I'm back again with Lisa Anderson and

0:05.5

Brandon Wilson, who are both involved in the Boundless podcast over at Focus on the Family. Just a great

0:12.1

resource addressing young adult issues and issues of singleness. And these couple weeks in August,

0:19.0

we are specifically focusing Java with Julie on issues related to singleness.

0:23.6

Because we have a new resource out, sex in the single role, which is a six-week Bible study,

0:29.6

looking at, you know, how can you be single and sexual and why am I sexual in the first place?

0:34.6

And what do I do with my past and temptations

0:38.0

and addressing some of those very practical issues?

0:41.3

But because I am not single and haven't been for a while,

0:44.5

I thought, hey, we've got to get some people on this show

0:47.0

who can speak to this right where they are today,

0:50.0

living in today's culture that is so sexually saturated,

0:53.8

so sexually confused. You know, how do we navigate this as singles? So Brandon and Lisa, you joined me on the last episode. Thanks for coming back. Thank you. Great time here. And for the first time in U.S. history, there are more singles in the U.S. than married, Julie. So we're taking over. You are. As of about a year and a half ago, or two years for the first time in U.S. history. So it doesn't mean they're not in relationships, but they're not getting to marriage. So obviously, I'm sure we'll tread into that. But yeah, majority. Wow, that's crazy. Oh, crazy. Yeah. First time ever in America, I'm sure. First time.

1:27.9

Wow, pretty nuts.

1:29.7

All right, well, one thing that we're going to do a little differently on this show than we did last time is I interviewed a sociologist named Mark Rignaris.

1:38.2

And I know you've spoken to him in the past, too, is he's a great guy, brilliant, has devoted a lot of his career to looking at societal trends related to young adults,

1:48.5

to sexuality, to marriage.

1:50.8

He wrote a book called Premarital Sex in America several years ago that I just think is really fascinating.

1:58.2

He has a new book coming out called Cheap Sex, the Transformation of

2:01.8

Men, Marriage, and Monogamy that's coming out next month. And so I interviewed him and just

2:08.1

got some of his thoughts on what's happening in culture related to sexuality. And then I thought

2:13.7

maybe we could bounce off of some of that and say, okay, how does this relate to us in real life?

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