Hi there, I'm Julie Slattery, and I'm so glad that you're listening to Job with Julie today.

We're releasing this bonus episode in response to what you may have been seeing on social media

regarding rapper and artist R. Kelly. In short, R. Kelly has been accused multiple times of the last

decade of having inappropriate sexual relationships with women, some that are under age.

Now, these news headlines are filled with abuse, pornography, sexual addiction, and evil that

most of us can't even begin to imagine. So the reason for this episode is twofold. First of all,

if you have sexual abuse in your past, stories like this one can bring

up a lot of pain and open old wounds. There are men and women hearing my voice right now,

who maybe weren't abused by a celebrity and it'll never be exposed in a high-profile documentary,

but the pain you've suffered through abuse is just as real. And we want to help you begin a journey to heal those wounds.

My guest is Dr. Dan Allender, and he has good news about the power of your story and the benefits you'll reap

when you confront the experiences that keep you from fully loving yourself and others.

And second, these stories are an opportunity for us to

talk with others about our faith and the hope and healing that we have in Jesus Christ. It's an

opportunity to practice sexual discipleship. There are people around you who need to know that

God cares about their pain and invites them to pursue healing. Every one of us needs to be ready to offer hope and compassion to the many around us who have suffered from sexual trauma.

So let's listen into my conversation with Dr. Dan Allender.

Well, this is Java with Julie and I'm Julie Slattery and I'm

excited to introduce my guest to you today.

Some of you might be really familiar with them.

His name is Dr. Dan Allender and he is the author of a number of books, but probably the one many of you will know of is the wounded heart.

And Dan, you wrote that book in 1990, I believe. Is that one who was published?

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