169. Why We Love the Way We Love: Attachment Styles with Dr. Becky Kennedy

We Can Do Hard Things

Treat Media and Glennon Doyle

Relationships, Education, Self-improvement, Society & Culture

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🗓️ 17 January 2023

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

Dr. Becky Kennedy is back to help us understand Attachment Styles, how our past comes alive in our present – and how to free ourselves and raise freer kids. 1. Why attachment styles are at the heart of our most intense conflicts (in ourselves and with others). 2. How to rewire our original mental coding (75% of which is complete by age 3), so we can have more peace. 3. How our physical and emotional attractions in adulthood are dictated by childhood attachments. 4. Why it’s never too late to initiate relationship repair, and the warning signs that we’re starved for connection. 5. How we can help our kids trust their instincts, use parenting as a path to grow in the ways we’ve always wanted to grow, and build empathy for our own imperfect parents. About Dr. Becky: Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and mom of three, named “The Millennial Parenting Whisperer” by TIME Magazine.Dr. Becky is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be and founder of the Good Inside Membership platform, a hub with Dr. Becky’s complete parenting content collection all in one place. Her podcast “Good Inside with Dr. Becky” – was one of Apple Podcasts “Best Shows of 2021.” TW: @goodinside IG: @drbeckyatgoodinside

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0:00.0	We'll finally find our way back home.
0:08.3	Welcome to We Can Do Hard Things.
0:11.0	It's so exciting.
0:12.0	I know we're really looking forward to today.
0:14.4	So as I mentioned on the previous episodes in the beginning of January, when I was talking
0:20.1	about my new journey back into intensive therapy, I was talking about how interesting and
0:29.9	confounding life can be when you are actually really passionate about figuring out who you
0:36.4	are and why you are the way you are.
0:40.1	It feels a little bit like a Scooby-Doo episode where you're the mystery and the detective
0:45.4	like you're constantly pulling off the hood and it's you, it's me, I'm the problem, it's
0:50.7	me.
0:51.7	But it's all I want to do is figure out why I do the things I do and why my people do
0:58.0	the things that they do and I think one of the greatest clues that I have found in
1:03.5	this journey is attachment theory that how we were taught to love as kids and as we
1:13.0	grew really affects our most intimate relationships that we have even now and even our relationships
1:19.4	with ourselves.
1:21.0	As Dr. Becky says that the adaptations we made in our childhood become the symptoms we
1:27.6	display in our adulthood but we were just looking out for ourselves, we were just surviving.
1:34.4	To help us through this detective game is one of the best people detectives we know and
1:39.9	that is Dr. Becky.
1:41.8	Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist best-selling author, Mom of Three, has been
1:47.5	named the Millennial Parenting Whisperer by Time Magazine.
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