166: Breakup Bootcamp: Attachment, Heartbreak & Healing w/ Amy Chan
The Lavendaire Lifestyle
Aileen Xu
4.8 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 13 December 2020
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
- 4:18 – Why do we choose wrong people? What makes the “bad boy” or “bad girl” attractive?
- 7:49 – How to break the cycle of choosing the wrong person
- 11:00 – An exercise in co-dependency and losing your sense of self
- 17:06 – Attachment styles 101: Secure, avoidant, or anxious?
- 22:53 – How to know when to let go, even when you're partner's amazing
- 25:08 – Regaining trust & healing from bad breakups
- 27:48 – How to know if they really like you, or if you should stop waiting around
- 30:10 – Amy's dream life, book rec, life-changing habit, best received advice & favorite part about life
- 31:55 – Lavi Love takeaways you should reflect on today
- Renew Breakup Bootcamp
- Heart Hackers Club (formerly Just My Type)
- Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart
- It's never just about the ex. It's recycled pain.
- Hanging on to hope for someone else to change in order for you to be happy is a recipe for disaster.
- We can be dating people who are amazing … but are they amazing for you? Are they the amazing fit for you?
- Love is something that is created through time, getting to know someone’s character, through seeing them through different situations in life.
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| 0:00.0 | hanging on hope for someone else to change in order for you to be happy is a recipe for disaster. |
| 0:09.6 | Welcome to the lavender lifestyle, the podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. |
| 0:14.8 | My name's Eileen and I'm here to guide you to become a master artist of life. |
| 0:19.4 | Every Sunday you'll get new insight and inspiration on how to create your dream life. |
| 0:25.2 | After the episode, the conversation continues in our Lavendare Lifestyle Facebook group, |
| 0:29.8 | so I can't wait to see you there. |
| 0:31.6 | Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece. |
| 0:35.0 | Hey my love, welcome back to the Lavender Lifestyle. It's Eileen. In today's episode, we are talking about relationships and heartbreak. |
| 0:45.3 | This is going to be a good one. I'm super excited about it. But before we get into the interview, |
| 0:49.0 | I want to remind you to check out the 2021 Artist of Life workbook, a guided journal to help you plan |
| 0:54.7 | your most intentional and inspiring year. With exercises on self-discovery, self-love, |
| 1:00.4 | and life design, it's a tool to take you from where you are to where you want to be. |
| 1:05.1 | So you can check that out at shop.lavendare.com. |
| 1:08.9 | Our guest today is Amy Chan. |
| 1:11.6 | Amy Chan is the founder of Renew Breakup Boot Camp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual |
| 1:17.2 | approach to healing the heart. |
| 1:19.6 | She's also the editor-in-chief of Just My Type. C.A. an online magazine that focuses on the psychology behind love, lust, and desire. |
| 1:27.8 | The observer calls her a relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw, |
| 1:32.9 | and her company has been featured across national media, |
| 1:35.7 | including Good Morning America, |
| 1:37.7 | Vogue, glamour, nightline, |
| 1:39.4 | and the front page of the New York Times. |
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