Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mark Gross podcast.

You know, one of the things that I didn't know I needed until I found it was feeling like I wasn't broken in a relationship, that there wasn't something wrong with me.

That the way I related wasn't because of some dysfunction, but because I was afraid of being

too close to love or afraid of being too far from it or afraid of where love would lead.

You know, when I finally understood that, that it was normal for humans to get anxious when

things are early in the dating process or why is it that when a woman told me she cared about me,

I did run or wanting to run and eventually stopped running, but why did that come up for me?

And so you might be exploring,

why do I do this in relationship? Why am I prone to this? Why am I reactive? Why do I have a hard

time staying in relationships? Why do I blow them up? Why? You know, all the things, right? We're

always wanting to postulate and understand and get to the core of it.

You know, it was when I ran into attachment theory that all of a sudden I had this way of organizing

and systemizing and recognizing how relationships work on this very simple level, this very

simple mechanism. And it made me have this just sort of sigh of relief.

Like, oh, there's a whole system that describes what I do or what I'm prone to doing.

And that was so helpful. And so I wanted to bring an expert on today to be able to talk about

attachment. Attachment theory. It is, by learning about it,

it is, I would say, the most impactful thing to change my life, to change how I related. And it doesn't

just influence your romantic relationships. It will influence all of your relationships, because

you take your attachment system with you.

So we're going to go through what that is, how it works, what style do you have,

et cetera, et cetera, how to change it, right?

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