I remember him coming in at the middle in the middle of the night when I woke up from a nightmare and I'm crying and he would come hold his hand over my mouth and my nose.

So tightly I could not breathe and I thought I was going to suffocate and I couldn't tell him that I couldn't breathe.

But I don't think he was conscious of what he was doing.

Suddenly he just had such a hot temper that he would get triggered by my crying and then he would come in and just try to silence me.

So I disassociated and learned how to then my body would just go limp and then he would stop doing that.

So my fight flight or freeze was survival mechanisms were full in force.

Like I was always on alert and I could tell if anybody in the room was getting upset or angry and I was hyper vigilant about anybody having an upset because I never knew how far it was going to go.

Welcome to how my parents raised me I'm Dawn Chitty. When we are born we arrive here as pure and perfect souls and the direction our life takes from that moment is deeply connected to what our parents bring to our lives.

And what our parents bring to our lives is deeply connected to what their parents brought to their lives and that's the cycle of families.

I have always craved connection with real and raw stories to understand what makes you you what makes you the absolutely unique human that you are.

Stories are medicine for the soul they can connect us and they can change the world and so in this podcast I'm listening to beautiful souls sharing their story.

What happened to them how they got through and how they have healed and thrive despite everything to arrive right here in this moment.

Content warning if you are triggered by the themes of this podcast please seek a help line in your city.

Hello my beautiful friends with your family dysfunctional or normal sometimes our normal is dysfunctional and we don't figure that out until much later when we realize what normal actually looks like.

Take a look at my blog post the six signs of a dysfunctional family the link is in the show notes.

Linetta and Mark are my guests this week and they are the soulmate coaches and they work with you to help you to find your soulmate.

Both Linetta and Mark had significant trauma growing up and have spent years healing and working on themselves they teach that the key to finding your soulmate is to heal the triggers stories and trauma that are keeping you in a holding pattern in relationships.

So that you can move on and grow and thrive and find your life partner.

Please join me now for my chat with the soulmate coaches.

Welcome to the how my parents raised me podcast Mark and Linetta you are the soulmate coaches and you're helping people to clear their past relationship hurts so that they can find their soulmate.

There are so many humans totally unconscious to the trauma they hold from childhood and of course that trauma comes along with us into our relationships and with half of marriages failing it's definitely very important work that you're both doing you both experienced trauma in your own childhoods that has affected your past relationships.

Linetta can you tell me about the dynamic between you and your mom and dad what was that like growing up well with my mom she was a stay at home mom and I remember her doing a lot of cooking and cleaning and sewing she sewed all our clothes and liked she liked to make matching dresses.

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