I've had the conversation with her multiple times that she's much more valuable

than what the education system is paying her right now. I want you to be my partner, not just in marriage, not just in

parenthood, but in finances as well. But it's definitely a bittersweet pill to swallow and we see how much we're paying for daycare

what was the point of going back to work when my whole salary is basically gone

at the end of the month. It kills me as a husband and as a man to not be able to satisfy that for her, not be able to give that to her.

If we continue on the same path that we've been on of never coming to a decision,

continuing the arguments and the tears, there's going to come a day where one of us says I can't anymore you know and just walks away.

Meet Amanda and Carlos and Carlos.

Amanda's 28, Carlos is 36 and they have two young children and they live in the tri-state area.

Now he wants them to be a power couple.

She says she's comfortable with how He wants them to be a power couple.

She says she's comfortable with how things are and she doesn't really want to change.

But when I start asking questions today, suddenly their story gets a lot deeper.

There are tears. They tell me stories about cars

being repoed. I hear about gender roles and separate accounts. Let's meet

Amanda and Carlos and as we get started, I notice an interesting comment they made in their application.

You did say that there are a lot of tears when you talk about money.

That's my fault.

Oh, what do you mean?

Emotions for me are very difficult.

Conversations in general, like finances have always been difficult for me. It's not something my parents ever talked about to me.

Being that vulnerable about it with him and sharing the way that I feel about you know our finances or what we're going to do next is very difficult for me to share and I just get caught up in the emotion sometimes.

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