Welcome to Tea Time with Mary.

I'm your host, Mary Jolkowski.

I'm a former bikini fitness model turned self-love advocate.

And this is the podcast that will inspire you to love yourself.

Hello, hello, everybody.

Welcome to another episode of Mary's Cup of Tea, the podcast.

Today, I'm going to talk about how to talk to a friend who is struggling with body

image or an eating disorder or just self-love in general.

How do you support somebody when they're

in their time of need without sacrificing yourself or feeling like you need to fix them?

I always say, I am not here to fix you because you are not broken, okay? I am just here to support

you. And there's a difference between helping somebody and supporting somebody,

okay? The difference that I always explained to my retreat sisters and my clients is that when

you're helping somebody, you're almost doing it at the expense of yourself, right? You're like really

invested and you want to, you want to almost fix them, so to speak, going back to that word, but nobody can be fixed.

Nobody. Nobody can be fixed because nobody is broken and it is not our job to fix other people.

What we should do instead is focus on supporting our friends and our loved ones.

And support looks like, what do you picture when you think of support, right?

I instantly, like as I'm speaking right now, I have my hands out. Like I'm holding somebody.

That's what support is. You're just holding somebody. And that doesn't mean that you have to necessarily lift them up right away, but you are holding them in the space

that they are in. You are giving them time and space and grace to be in whatever struggle that they

are going through, whether it's big or small in your eyes, and you're letting them have their own

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