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Marriage and Martinis

156. Reclaiming Our Time and Value, With Natalie Lue

Marriage and Martinis

Adam Silverstein

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4.81.4K Ratings

🗓️ 12 February 2021

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

We are taught from a young age that doing for others is what makes us good, generous people. We are conditioned to say "yes" even when we're faced with something we really don't want to do. Obhave overtaken so many of our lives, that we have run out of time to do the things that truly matter to us. Our dreams and goals have been put on hold. But HOW do we say no? What's holding us back and how can we overcome it? "Recovering People Pleaser," Natalie Lue talks us through why we need to stop associating "saying yes" with "goodness" and "generosity." She also walks us through her famous practice of "unsent letters" and why this is a tool that can cleanse us all from so much of our baggage. If you are looking to lighten your load and reclaim your time and value, then you definitely want to listen to this episode.


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0:00.0

Music

0:29.9

So thanks so much for being here.

0:31.9

Oh, thank you so much for having me, Danielle.

0:34.9

I wanted to have been following you on Instagram for a while and I love your Instagram.

0:39.9

I wanted to sort of talk because I like I think a lot of other people maybe especially women, although I don't know if I should make that assumption.

0:47.9

I'm feeling this mixed bag of as we start to sort of think about post pandemic life.

0:54.9

This mixed bag of I can't wait to get back to everything, but I'm also petrified to get back to everything.

1:05.9

And the pandemic has been a really nice pause for so many of us and sort of to realign and realize how much we have been over scheduled how much we've been drained energy wise.

1:23.9

We sort of got to stop and reflect on all of that.

1:27.9

And you specialize in making sure that we are being or tell me if I'm incorrect at any point.

1:38.9

Being our best selves and getting what we want and making sure that we're not living in this mode of kind of living for other people, being a people pleaser.

1:50.9

You know, and basically putting our own needs last.

1:55.9

So can you tell us a little bit about baggage reclaim and what you do.

2:05.9

Yeah, absolutely.

2:06.9

You are spot on that it's very much about becoming more of who you really are and enjoying more mutually fulfilling relationships.

2:13.9

And the root to that is owning our needs and taking care of ourselves and living by our values as opposed to making our existence about everybody else.

2:24.9

And it's interesting what you described there because I definitely have recognized that feeling, you know, that sense of, ooh, like I want my, my, my post pandemic life, you know, I want to be out of lockdown and, you know, social distancing and all of these various different rules and regulations.

2:43.9

But what was an interest in revelation for me was that after the first lockdown that we had here in England.

2:52.9

I would then receive invitations to do things, you know, I would get like texts going, oh my gosh, like let's get a date in the diary to meet up.

3:00.9

And all of a sudden I went from having basically all of my time really to myself.

3:08.9

I had nowhere to go, nowhere to be unless you can't supermarket, walk the dog, you know, walk or get some form of exercise.

3:15.9

That was basically all you could do and all of a sudden people were like, oh, let's do this, let's do this.

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