You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, Relationship Coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we are doing three tips for avoidant attaches during conflict.

So if you listened last week, I did sort of part one of this topic, which was three

tips for anxiously attach people during conflict.

And as promised, I'm coming back with part two this week, which is around avoidant

attachment and some steps that avoidant attaches can take to shift the status quo in conflict in your

relationships. As I spoke to last week, we all contribute to these patterns, even if we feel like

it's really easy to blame the other person. And if they didn't do their thing, I wouldn't do my thing.

That tends to be true on both sides. And that is good news because it means that we have more power over changing the patterns

than maybe we realize.

So today's episode is going to be sharing some pointers for avoidant people in conflict

with your partner so that you can hopefully have more productive conversations where

you can really hear each other and get to a resolution that is mutually satisfactory,

quicker maybe than you tend to. I know that for avoid and attaches, one of the big gripes with

their anxious partners is, you know, having conversations that go on for hours and hour

than hours. And I know that I can feel excruciatingly painful and can really feed into your

resistance to talking about relationship stuff more broadly because you feel like every time

you open the can of worms, it's signing up for one of those big, drawn out long

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